I'm pleased to say I have now found Joseph Ruffley in the 1841 census - aged 24 and living in Pennington, Leigh, with Thomas and Jane Arrowsmith. I was a bit confused until I found on IGI a marriage in 1825 between Thomas Arrowsmith and... Jane Ruffley (his mother). Joseph's father James must have died sometime around the time Joseph was born in 1817 - 1825.
Also living with the Arrowsmiths in 1841 is William Buckley, born in Ireland, a Chelsea pensioner, who is described in 1851 as Thomas Arrowsmith's brother-in-law - so that gives me Jane's maiden name as Buckley.
So my next questions are:
1. How do I find out more about William Buckley, a Chelsea Pensioner born in Ireland about 1798;
2. Where can I find a birth for Jane Buckley, In Ireland between 1795/1801 ?
Any suggestions would be welcomed.
Mike