Aghadowey, many thanks for the explanation of M1 abd for your help.
John, how can I ever thank you for all the trouble you went to?
It is really sad that Isdabella's wishes were not carried out - at least they are buried together and findings have been confirmed.
It is really a sad story as there's no one over here who can remember her. She didn't forget her step siblings though even though she left Scotland early. Her parents died in 1891 (her mother) and 1892 her stepfather. All the children were 'farmed out' into domestic service, the oldest was 19 and married, she took care of the youngest aged 2 - the rest were scattered and were kitchen maids, domestic servants, grooms, and the youngest a 'day worker' aged 4.
It doesn't surprise me that the money left for the grave's care wandered into other people's pockets (none of the beneficiaries by the way). The NY lawyers managed to drag things out for years, 'forgot' to let us know about taxes due for the house etc. etc. so that in the end there was nothing lef - so they said. Obviously my grandmother (the executrix) wasn't very capable as well as the others of the family. There must have been a substantial sum of money as well as the house and contents according to the will so at least they didn't do badly.
I'll try to follow up the Greene side a bit to find out whether Harry was a bandleader as well.
Thanks again
Rapunzel
