I am still confused as to who Mary Esberger in the 1851 census is
I thisk it's pretty clear that Mary is Thomas Esberger's estranged first wife Mary Millis, who is much older than him.
He has left her (or she him), sometime in the early 1840's, probably around the time that he is imprisoned for debt.
On his release, Thomas sets up home with Annabell. They are not married, or at least not legally married.
By 1861, Annabell has disappeared from the scene and Thomas is living on his own. By this time Mary has died and he is a widower
That was the conclusion I was coming to as well.
As I have previously noted, I did find a christening for a Mary Millis in 1798 in Finchley (a relatively small parish at the time -- the same surnames also crop up a lot) that would indeed suggest this is her.
However, I cannot fit her parents William Millis and Ann into my tree.
However, if Emily Esberger is said to be a cousin of Eleanor Sarah Fortye Millis (although, in fact, she would not be a blood relative of any Millis), then this would suggest Mary Millis who married Thomas Esberger is related to John Robert Millis, the father of Eleanor Sarah Fortye Millis.
As I have not yet traced the father of John Robert Millis, it could be the case that his father is William Millis as well.
There is a strong case for this. A William Millis married an Ann Thompson on 23 May 1781, at St. Andrew, Holborn. John Robert Millis (born circa 1787), Francis Millis (chr. 18 December 1792 at St. Mary, Finchley -- noted as Mills) and Mary Millis (chr. 8 April 1798, St. Mary, Finchley) are all possibly siblings.
Francis is a name used again in the family too (Francis Fortye Millis was a son of John Robert Millis).
n.b. I also found someone with the surname Willis, as a child of a William and Ann, again in Finchley. I presume this is a mistranscription but I cannot be sure. I shall find this again and post it here.
1789: Ann, daughter of William and Ann Willis, was born August the 10th, & baptised Sept. 6thShaun, thank you for your assistance and wise thoughts.
It seems sadly true that Eleanor Sarah Fortye Millis became estranged from Beverley Purton Edwards Lodington alias Edwards as well.
Another question: do you have any idea where Shields could be? Is this possibly South Shields?