Trees
I think that death in 1862 pretty well excludes the Carter/Dando Julia anyway. Only one Julia born in Somerset in 1861 to Carter/Dando June 1861 and therefore the death aged 0 in March 1862, I would suggest, is likely the same Julia. Should have checked before I posted. Could our Julia be from somewhere else i.e. Bristol or Stroud?
I concur entirely with you on the Withy Mills bit, but how can we make it more concrete?? I don't have the 1861 census to hand but how big was the house? could they have taken another 4 people?
Further to my earlier post on graves I have also located Julia's grave, and I did see it today. A rather nice headstone (far better than I expected) and inscription but unfortunately no mention of parents.
I have also determined that these other graves are also at Pentwyn Fochriw
James John 1936 (aged 77)
Gertrude 1879 (5 weeks), and !!
Mary Ann Carter (Badger/Jenkins) age 80.
There is also a grave of a Clare Carter 1922 (age 14) who I believe is a child of James John from a second marriage.
St Andrews (Pentwyn graveyard), is a lovely little chapel with wonderful views down over the Darren Valley. Need to get a grave plan to locate the other graves.
Trees, you seem to have lost me a little with the Carter/Dando/Proverb etc.