What happened to Ivor HOPWOOD who died in Australia

[maxidog]

Hi Lozzalita,
I assume that you are Cyril’s younger daughter.
I was always puzzled as to why your sister made no attempt for me to meet you once I hade met up with her.
I ceased contact with  her when I realised that I was feeding her with all the information that I had discovered about my father and his family but I was not getting much from her. What I especially want and still would like is a photo of my father as an adult. I have several of him now as a toddler and a few as a young teenager but not as an adult.
Incidentally, Annie Malpass , my grandmother, would have nothing to do with me even though I was her first grandchild. People have told me over the years that I look like her!! Not sure if you are wanting further contact but this forum is not the means for it.

[maxidog]

I was amazed to find that my father had lived /worked in Brunei apparently around the 1954/55 years. What I did discover in my visit to New Zealand when I visited his grave was that he was probably an alcoholic.
Brunei is known as a very strict country and alcohol is forbidden there so I was puzzled as to how he had managed to stay there for at least a year. A colleague who worked there for the British Council said it was easy to get alcohol and hide it for those who worked for the British Council. He said no doubt that my father could have continued drinking there despite the threat of severe punishments(death?)
My colleague hasn’t been able to give me a contact in Brunei as it is some years since he left there.

[sparrett]

Hi maxidog.

It has been a long haul for you in his search and the success to date in the quest is due to the work of this wonderful forum.

I cannot agree with your remark that the friendly approach in the post from by your relative  Lozzalita is not a suitable way to begin contact.

Not sure if you are wanting further contact but this forum is not the means for it.

It seems to me like it would be a great start to answering some questions.

If  Lozzalita posts just 2 more times she will be able to use the PM system of Rootschat and that way you can chat more freely.

Sue

 

[shanreagh]

Hi maxidog.

It has been a long haul for you in his search and the success to date in the quest is due to the work of this wonderful forum.

I cannot agree with your remark that the friendly approach in the post from by your relative  Lozzalita is not a suitable way to begin contact.

Not sure if you are wanting further contact but this forum is not the means for it.

It seems to me like it would be a great start to answering some questions.

If  Lozzalita posts just 2 more times she will be able to use the PM system of Rootschat and that way you can chat more freely.

Sue

Perhaps Maxidog was a little taken aback by this wording  "I remember her mentioning about your awful visit when Eileen was in hospital."  But DM is the way to go and Lozzalita could do a couple more posts, even just a short couple of words to be able to enable Maxidog to communicate. 

[sparrett]

Well, who knows what makes a visit awful!

Or for whom it was.

Yes, wishing them the best in their hopefully ongoing chats.
Sue

[Jennaya]

Well, who knows what makes a visit awful!

Or for whom it was.

Yes, wishing them the best in their hopefully ongoing chats.
Sue

Yes, I took it to mean that the visit was awful for Maxidog.
Hopefully they will be able to DM. I also wish them all the best.

[maxidog]

I am in great debt to RootChat and to all who have helped me in my ‘on/off’ research about my father. I did not intend to offend those who have been of invaluable help to me and put up with my poor understanding of technology by stating in my response to Lozzalita that RootsChat was not the means of further contact. I got carried away seeing her message as my last contact with the family revealed a huge rift amongst them. Fortunately I was not part of it but I felt that I needed clarification of the family situation before committing any further contact with her on RootsChat.

[maxidog]

The hospital visit mentioned wasn’t bad but what had happened after was quite bizarre and it was followed by a nasty phone call to me from a newly found family member resulting with the whole family being ordered to have no contact with me!!!
I am still baffled as to why they took this decision but accept that they are not going to be a part of my life. I have managed ok without them in it and realised that my life would not have been better had I been part of the family as I had always thought it would be.
My aim has always been to get the longed for photo of my father as an adult but have had to accept that this is hardly likely now.