How cross would you be, or am I over reacting?

[shan42]

You could be sly Jellis - email them and say you're pleased to have found the info and ask them where they found it out... if they don't reply you've lost nothing, but if they do - they might be grateful for the truth

[Jellis]

That is a very clever idea!  I shall have to think about the wording, though, as if they do start to correspond I shall have to come clean about the death of the son.  I have his death certificate.  I'm still wondering how they linked these people up so I shall have do something about it 

Edited:  I have written a carefully worded email to the poster.  Now I shall have to wait and see!  I have told them that I descend from the younger son without mentioning the death of the elder one.  If they prove to me that there was another son I shall be amazed!

Janet

[shan42]

Well done Jellis! Let us know how if they reply!

[Jellis]

Still waiting...bet they're at work 

[Roger The Hat]

While you're waiting..........

Mrs. Hat did not want her tree on the 'net, for personal reasons. However, I did find one of her direct ancestors in someone else's tree, with the wrong parents and husband attached.

I thought I'd do the "right" thing and politely point out the error (I have all the certificates and can match them with the census entries), and offered to supply the proof, if necessary.

The website still displays the wrong data, but they've added my name and email address, as a contributor.

Not happy..............

'Hat.

[Jellis]

I'd be hopping mad!   

There's loads of trees on Genes all copied from me.  NOT boasting, it's just in the early days I used to give access to any Tom, Dick or Harry.  Not any more, though. 

[7igerby7he7ail]

I have had many contacts over the years from people 'connected' one way or another.
Two stick in the mind
One was from a third cousin who contacted via GR and established that we were indeed related. He furnished a now treasured photograph of my great great grandparents and 10 of their 12 children,including my great grandfather.
We of course exchanged information.
The second was from a second cousin who wanted to know every detail of the tree. When I asked her to reciprocate, she flatly refused saying the information was private.
Needless to say I didnt pass on the info

[Jellis]

Words fail me, Gensleuth, but I was a bigger fool.  I had a similar experience with a Genes member.  We exchanged email addresses and I sent scans of documents and gave access to my tree etc.  Information flowed from my computer to hers.  Eventually I asked her a few questions.  The silence was deafening.  I asked for access to her tree.  I got the curt message; 'Why, how are we related?'.  I mentioned the information I had sent her but got no reply.  I closed my tree, but sadly, it was too late.  She'd filched all my tree. 

Lesson learned.  Treading softly nowadays! 

[shan42]

Jaysus - there's some tight gits out there!! 

Maybe I'll just do my tree private now I have a ton of ancestors on it - I have one or two I've got a couple of names off, (and checked them too) and have connected with them to share info which I will gladly do - but that must be really annoying, Gensleuth & Jellis I'd probably see red and send them an email with big sweary words in, lol!! Roger - did you tell them to remove your info? That's outrageous!!

A fair few people on this forum have been so kind & helpful to me (and I know it goes on all the time here), I don't understand how some people can be so tight as to not return the favour