Hi Lynda02,
I couldnt resist the challenge after looking at your lovely picture.
Are you sure she was Elizabeth COLE and not TUCKER?
All the childrens baptisms are on the Cornwall OPC site in Hessenford. He seems to have been a Pensioner Royal Artillery, then Innkeeper when older children were baptised and Farmer later. Found them 1871/1881 Census and all childrens names match.
The only Marriage that fits is from Freebmd and Cornwall site is to an Elizabeth TUCKER, 04 March 1862 St Germans. James is a widower also from Cornwall record. By their ages in 1871 both could have been married before.
Cannot find a Marriage to Elizabeth Cole anywhere in England.
I love James parents names Bernard Carpenter and Temperance Moon

Cheers,
Trish
EDIT Found an Eliz. Coles, servant in 1851 Census, still no marriage thoug even with soundex
