Ancestry

[Jay9]

Hi

Does anybody else find it upsetting to find the deaths of close relatives on public trees on Ancestry, my mum died on Christmas day and it was on Ancestry within  6 weeks with full details and is now being copied to other trees, it would of been nice if it had not been put on for a year, out of respect for family. Perhaps it is just me.

                                                 Jan

[Nick29]

My last remaining uncle died last week, aged 95.  His daughter views my tree on Ancestry as an invited guest, and I waited until after his funeral to add my uncle's death details (he died in Canada), so that I could be sure that it wouldn't come as a shock to anyone.  My cousin saw her father's details on my tree, and she immediately emailed me - to tell me that I'd got his place of death wrong ! 

Both my mum and dad were dead long before I started doing my tree research, so I'm not sure how I'd feel in your position.  I can only speculate that the loss is going to hurt anyway, so maybe it's best to get it out in the open and done with ?  Only speculation, though 

[genjen]

No Jan, I don't think it is just you. I think that anyone who wanted to put details of your mum's death into a public tree, it would have shown some courtesy and consideration to have asked how you felt about it. I understand how you feel as I struggled to add my own mother's death  details to a tree which isn't public. There was no way I could have posted it for the world to see after such a short time.

Jen

[kerryb]

Jan

I have much sympathy, my grandad died some 13 years so I was used to his death by the time I started my family tree some 6 years ago but I was upset by the fact that there were at least 4 trees out there with not only wrong death details for him but also wrong birth details.

Ok so I could get over that, but what I couldn't get over was when I informed one person they didn't believe me and to this day its wrong.  Errrr hello he was my grandad, I know when he died.     That person was so distantly related I'm surprised that line was even on their tree.

Kerry

[Jay9]

I have just had look to see how the one person is related to my mum but I have given up the tree has 43089 names on it, I can see what line they have got my mums name from but not how they are are supposed to be related.

43089 names makes my tree seem rather small. Thanks for the replies.
                                 
                                                                    Jan
 

[ozlady]

43089? What am I doing wrong? I doubt if I've got 200 on mine! At least I know all of them quite well!

[kerryb]

I supposed it depends if you like collecting names and generations or getting to know the ancestors intimately.  That takes a lot more time in my experience so you get stuck with less ancestors.

Kerry

[kiwihalfpint]

Jan

I have much sympathy, my grandad died some 13 years so I was used to his death by the time I started my family tree some 6 years ago but I was upset by the fact that there were at least 4 trees out there with not only wrong death details for him but also wrong birth details.

Ok so I could get over that, but what I couldn't get over was when I informed one person they didn't believe me and to this day its wrong.  Errrr hello he was my grandad, I know when he died.     That person was so distantly related I'm surprised that line was even on their tree.

Kerry

I can relate to that Kerry.   Someone told me I had my grandmother and  my fathers date of deaths wrong.   Did this person ever visit the graves or sight the death certificates .  I gave them the correct dates but they were adamant I was wrong.   

Cheers
KHP

[kerryb]

The trouble is I'm not even sure where the contact got the wrong dates from, it clearly wasn't from certificates or any primary sources.  Probably came from another Ancestry tree, which of course is more likely to be correct than a witness to the event  (she says with tongue firmly in cheek) 

Kerry