Hi,
Are you certain the father's name was Thomas? Do you have a child's birth cert?
I can't see a marriage for Thomas/Alice, apart from one in 1844 and that Thomas was a pitman, but there's this one for
James/Alice
Jarrow St. Paul's Church
20 Oct 1828 James Stephenson, of this parish married Alice Angus, of this parish
I can see a James & Alice Stephenson in 1841 census Westoe (HO107 Piece 298 Book 7 Folio 7 Page 8 )
and this same family is in Westoe in 1851 and shows James with wife Ellen, (possibly a mistake for Alice), same children, and the ages of children Alice 1834, William 1838, and Ann 1844 match with your 1861 census. (HO107 Piece 2399 Folio 317 Page 54)
I can give you full details if you don't have census access
James was a Pilot
Barbara
