Dear Tazzie,
I have just revisited the census and I realise something I should have spotted long ago...
I have looked at census records for Ridley Smith many times; in the search results there are 2 Ridley Smiths in 1841:
One with Margaret Lisgo in Newcastle, which matchs my contacts information
(my distant cousin Tracy Jaleel has been a great currespondent on the tree and filled in many gaps for me on this side of the tree about Wilsons/Bowmans and such like)
But then there's the Ridley with Elizabeth the Irish woman....her age in 1841, 55, is wildly differant from 1861 (87!) but the crazy thing is I've looked at these census entries many times and I didnt work it out or didn't see the major flaw in all this....another thought dawns on me....maybe I ignored that 1st one , the Ridley and Margaret, maybe I failed to look...yes, I think so because that's how my confusion emails with Tracy began....
I'd write...I found he's married to this Irish woman called Elizabeth but on the tree he's married to Margaret Lisgo! Ahhhhh...
There are TWO Ridley's, two differant families and the correct one is Ridley and Elizabeth (unknown surname) because the next link down is my next ancestor called Susanna and she's with them in 1841, and subsequently it all makes perfect sense in 1861 (though wrongly listed as a wilson, that's just a census error) because she IS her mother and mother-in-law to husband Joseph Wilson! Utter madness, I missed this....!!!
It's crazy I didn't think it through....so now I do not believe Margaret Lisgo is any relation, but now I have this unknown Irish woman.....
Anyway, I've made mistakes before but this mistake was confused by the seemingly accurate information of my cousin who made this huge largely accurate (I think!?!) tree but she's got it wrong, clearly....
Anyway....I'm going to try and solve this mystery somehow presently....
Well, take care
Bye for now
Jess