Hi Michael,
The name Lowther of Kelloe struck a chord when I saw your post.
A few years back I assisted a lady called Christine in finding out where Lily Lowther had been buried. Lily was buried in St Helen's old Graveyard, Kelloe.
On one of my trips up to Co. Durham I located the grave for Christine, which she has since visited.
Could chrissie0143 be the Christine I did the research for?
I notice from chrissie0143's profile that she was online yesterday so has probably seen your post and will be in touch.
Regards,
Ian