Stillbirths

[microsunflower]

Thank you Valda for the information about babies being buried with an adult to 'look after them' and being moved to consecrated ground.   I have thought about trying to trace her and would like to thank Joanna for her link site information.  My courage fails me at present in case I find her with someone I knew locally and would feel disturbed to think she was buried with.

My next door neighbour at the time who was an elderly Catholic lady, told me that God takes stillborn children to be angels because they have been completely untouched by sin or hate, etc.   I am not religious but it's a lovely thought that another mother reading this post might take comfort from.

Sorry, don't want to turn this into some sort of counselling site.  I posted originally for genealogy reasons.  Thanks again everyone who has been so kind.

Barbara

[Valda]

Hi Barbara

What it does mean is that if you ever feel able to the church burial register, which is either still held by the church or deposited with the local record office, will give you the information on who was the next burial in the churchyard and therefore, particularly if there is a gravestone, a precise location to visit if you feel able to do so, or perhaps others could do on your behalf.


I think perhaps this topic could now move to the completed board


Regards

Valda

[Gaille]

Thank you Valda for the information about babies being buried with an adult to 'look after them' and being moved to consecrated ground.   I have thought about trying to trace her and would like to thank Joanna for her link site information.  My courage fails me at present in case I find her with someone I knew locally and would feel disturbed to think she was buried with.

My next door neighbour at the time who was an elderly Catholic lady, told me that God takes stillborn children to be angels because they have been completely untouched by sin or hate, etc.   I am not religious but it's a lovely thought that another mother reading this post might take comfort from.

Sorry, don't want to turn this into some sort of counselling site.  I posted originally for genealogy reasons.  Thanks again everyone who has been so kind.

Barbara

Barbara,

My friends had a stillborn daughter, she also had an older daughter (I think she was just around 4 at the time)
At school her teacher was told what had happened & was being very cautious with what was said around the little girl - she knew her sister had been stillborn.

One day she was talking to the teacher & she mentioned her baby sister herself, she was talking about the baby & told the teacher her sister had been born "An angel Baby"

I love her description, its so sweet, I am not religious myself but it makes you wonder where she got that description from as no-one had heard the expression before, sometimes kids see things much clearer than we adults do!

Gaille