Hi Evan,
Yes, I would agree that this looks very likely to be your Spooner family who disappears from England and turns up in the USA. Dates seem to all fit in nicely too.
There are several "Spooner" threads here on rootschat (I think all started by me

) - I think if you read through them you will be able to work out where your friend's Ralph fits in, and also give you a good outline of a family tree.
On the dark bar at the top of the page you will see "Home" "Forum" etc ... if you click on "Search", you can enter the surname Spooner and in the "by user" box put my name (Ruskie). This will take you to all the threads related to these families.
There are quite a lot of us researching this family so tell your friend he has loads of distant cousins.

Let me know if you get stuck or need clarification or any more information such as census lookups.
Have fun!
