Sorry, think I will be only adding to the confusion here but the only Henry R Sims to fit your second age (b.1832) appears on 1871 with a different family. He may not be connected but it just may be a first marriage.
The guy in 1881 does seem a bit old for a first marriage with young children. I'll have another look around.
George T Goodman 14 Walworth, Surrey, England Son Wandsworth All Saints London
George W Goodman 36 Camberwell, Surrey, England Boarder Wandsworth All Saints London
Alfred W Sims 3 Wandsworth, Surrey, England Son Wandsworth All Saints London
Henry R Sims 39 London, England Head Cooper Wandsworth All Saints London
Henry R Sims 4 Bethell Green, Middlesex, England Son Wandsworth All Saints London
James C Sims 1 Wandsworth, Surrey, England Son Wandsworth All Saints London
Jane S Sims 35 Bethell Green, Middlesex, England W2 Wandsworth All Saints London
His oocupation is Cooper and only puts London as birthplace.
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