What do I do with you when you die?

[cheshiremog]

JAP
Goodness - I have to say it sounds like Will Shakespeare's sonnet:-
"No longer mourn for me when I am dead"

I have always said to my family bury me - but sometimes I wonder if I should let them decide - they have to cope with it all afterwards-but as everyone has said it is important to discuss these things beforehand as you do put a burden on your family otherwise.

Hoping they play "Just My'Magination" for me
" A cosy little home with two children maybe three"

[Shropshire Lass]

JAP
Goodness - I have to say it sounds like Will Shakespeare's sonnet:-
"No longer mourn for me when I am dead"

I have always said to my family bury me - but sometimes I wonder if I should let them decide - they have to cope with it all afterwards-but as everyone has said it is important to discuss these things beforehand as you do put a burden on your family otherwise.

This is how I feel about it.  I don't mind giving some guidance for what I'd like but it's the people who are left behind who will have to deal with the loss and I'd rather they did what gave them the most comfort.

[JAP]

JAP
Goodness - I have to say it sounds like Will Shakespeare's sonnet:-
"No longer mourn for me when I am dead" ..

Hi cheshiremog,

Knowing the person (and I was very fond of him), I'd have to say that I'd interpret the message from his own poem as quite the reverse i.e. don't you rotters dare forget me!!! 

And I doubt that anyone who knew him ever will!!!

JAP

[Springbok]

OH (now 80 yrs young)was thinking about this question  and at Christmas we discussed this with our daughter.
She is the only one of our three to live in UK.

She lives in a tiny Hamlet in Dorset and the Church is Ancient and churchyard nearly full for buriels,  but the inhabitants can bury/scatter ashes in the grounds and on a wall small memorial plaques can be placed. And that applies to close relations who don't live in the village. So we have settled that, is where we will go.

As a side piece of info. the Church peal of bells is that which is used in "The Archers"  Appropriate as we are all addicts!! 

Spring

[Iria]

When I die .I want to Be Buried In Toxteth Park Cem ..This is Where My Dad Mum Nan and Granddad Are Buried ..Also Quite a Few of Mine and My Hubby's Ancestor's Are (Sadly all in unmarked Graves )

Regards

Iria

[joboy]

I rather favour the following ...... from an old traditional song;
"And when I die don't bury me at all,
Just pickle my bones in alcohol;
put a bottle o' booze at my head and feet
And then I know that I will keep."
joboy

[trish251]

OH (now 80 yrs young)was thinking about this question  and at Christmas we discussed this with our daughter.
She is the only one of our three to live in UK.

She lives in a tiny Hamlet in Dorset and the Church is Ancient and churchyard nearly full for buriels,  but the inhabitants can bury/scatter ashes in the grounds and on a wall small memorial plaques can be placed. And that applies to close relations who don't live in the village. So we have settled that, is where we will go.

As a side piece of info. the Church peal of bells is that which is used in "The Archers"  Appropriate as we are all addicts!! 

Spring

I think this is a wonderful idea Spring - especially with mention of Dorset as one of my gg grandfathers who emigrated to Australia came from Dorset and some of the many cousins and siblings who remained are probably still in the county.

[tinav40]

What ever you all want make sure you write it down and that your family know where you keep your final wishes.
Because it really causes family fall outs and arguments.
Unless you fancy being exhumed that is.

[Midlanders]

I said to my OH if you go first, to remind me of you I'll have a statuette made containing your ashes, but she said may prefer being sprinkled on an ornamental oak tree we planted recently.
Now hope I'm still here if this treasured tree eventually needs some TLC, as they live over 100 years.
Midlanders