What do I do with you when you die?

[Cell]

It's clinical waste so you have to be careful

This is an interesting site http://www.gardenlaw.co.uk/gardenburial.html


Sylviaann

Interesting human remains comes under pollution/clinical waste laws but pets don't. ( The garden is full of them back home, Cats, Gerbils, dogs )

My Gran's ashes were scatted in our garden back home under a Rose bush ( which is legal according to that site)

Myself, I'd like to be buried back home in Wales ( I too have spent nearly all of my adult life abroad in various countries, but I consider only one country to be home).
 My hubby wants to be cremated and  his ashes scatted out to sea off Gower, back home . I have  told  him I will not totally comply with his wishes.
If he goes before me I will bury half his ashes and have a gravestone for his child to visit, the other half can  go into the sea off Gower . He won't know as he'll be  dead, but the people grieving , left behind  need something to visit.

Kind regards

[MarieC]

I agree with Trish and Cell.  It's so deeply satisfying to find and visit ancestors' graves that I would hate to deprive subsequent generations of this experience.  I travelled nearly 1000 kilometres in each direction to find and visit a remote bush grave, and the thrill was indescribable.

MarieC

[aspin]

I had a friend who's husband was cremated and she said she was going to get  her husband's ashes made into large  and egg timer so that every time she passed it she could turn it over .I don't know if she ever did

As you know we lost our youngest son Alan in October and his wishes were to have his ashes scattered at sea from his fishing boat .We have not had very good weather here to do anything
We were discussing this the other night and our daughter in law said ,the children don't want him to go anywhere they want to keep their Dad at home

As we said it is up to them and if thats what they want its up to them

OH and I don't want cremated and the family know that

Elizabeth

Elizabeth

[aspin]

Sorry there

It  was his ashes that were to made into an egg timer not hers
Not with it this morning

Elizabeth

[dollylee]

Hi Elizabeth

As I said in my earlier post, it was my mother's wishes to keep dad with her while she was alive.  It may sound strange to some but it was very comforting to her. 

When she felt all alone she would give his urn (actually a cherrywood box) a pat and tell him how much she loved and missed him.  It really helped her to have him close and available to talk to at any time.  She would often sit and just talk to him about certain events in their lives, wish him a happy birthday or anniversary.  It was an amazing way for her to get through her grief, she felt he was still close to her.

After she passed they were buried together with a permanent marker as I also believe there should be a permanent resting place and a place for all family to visit.

I can understand your son's childrens feelings, it is a way for them to ease through their grief. 

I hope you are okay with it, as a mother I understand that that your grief must be enormous as well.

dollylee

[aspin]

Dee,

My thoughts are like your's

A little joke with me and my Mother who had never flown in her life

When I first flew on holiday in 1973 my mother told everyone I was flying to Austria and in the village it was a big thing at the time
As more holidays came around she would say she's flying again
So now when we go up to the graves with flowers before we go on holiday ,I say Mam I'm flying again ,so I too still talk to my mother

Elizabeth 



Elizabeth

[JAP]

A poem written by my late noted scientist ex-b-i-l and now inscribed on his grave in a country town in Australia.

"AGAINST CREMATION
Indigestible in life, indeed obtuse,
prone to argument and even clashes,
my body, please, do not reduce
to an old tin of greasy ashes.

But take a measure less obscene:
throw my remnants in the earth,
let worms and microbes pick me clean,
angular, indigestible, as at birth."

His parents and grandparents are also buried there ...

JAP

[MarieC]

Really love that one, JAP!!   

MarieC

[Glenpenny]

When my uncle died, he was cremated and my aunt put his ashes in a large flower pot in the garden and planted a rose bush on top of him.  She was quite content to keep him fed and watered, talking to him every day.  I was not quite so happy when she asked me to repot him.