What do I do with you when you die?

[Sylviaann]

Of course there is "Always look on the bright side"  That should make them smile.

I did wonder about Imagine

Sylviaann

[Romilly]

Unfortunately I had to go to a funeral last week, - but it was actually a brilliant (civil) ceremony, carried out by a Civil Celebrant.

 I gather that there is a Directory of Civil Celebrants on the www.

Romilly.

[Shropshire Lass]

In 'New Tricks' Jack has his wife Mary in the garden.

I thought it was just her ashes, buried in the centre of the plot.

[Windsor87]

When I die, I will be chucked in the family plot which I bought the burial rights to. It was last opened in 1934 when my great grandmother died. Seems most appropriate given my hobby.
With regard to funeral - I'm not sure if I want one. People I don't like might turn up, and I'd be powerless to stop them. I'll be damned if they are getting free sandwiches and sausage rolls on my tab! I'm not religious, so the whole funeral thing would be a waste of time and money. Plus, not many people would show up (bar those people I don't like who are after a free sausage roll).

I'm a miserable cheapskate in life, and so will be in death.

[silvery]

Of course there is "Always look on the bright side"  That should make them smile.

Sylviaann

I've heard this to end a funeral.   

[mins-jones1]

My Mums husband died 3 yrs ago and he was a carpenter (fully apprenticed etc) and he was cremated. He made my mum promise not to burn good wood, it would be sacrilage he said. So she did as she was told, he went in an MDF coffin that cost £10. The undertakers were very understanding and understood completely. I didnt know at that particular time that they didnt actually burn the coffin, it was taken back to the undertakers and reused!

On a different note my kids know what I want. They are going to cremate me to  Dead or alives 'Spirit in the Sky' LOUD, then party to Cher's 'Taxi Taxi' again LOUD. I am then going to sit on my daughters mantlepiece and rattle everytime I want some attention. My 2 sons and my daughter are ok with this. But if they feel they need to 'lose' me somewhere then I am ok with that also, I'll be dead!!!

Life is for living and for digging about in archives. So just for the record, WRITE IT ALL DOWN. MAKE IT EASIER FOR THE FUTURE GENERATION TO PICK UP WHERE YOU LEFT OFF.

Tracie x x x x

[julieann1]

I heard of someone whose rellies scattered them on a cornfield.  The following year they went back and picked some of the corn  and made a flower arrangement sort of thing...

My grandad died last month.  The undertakers will keep his ashes until we are ready to scatter him (which will be after my granny goes, so that they can be together).  It'll be somewhere they liked to go for a walk, but ought I to ask the landowners permission?

My cat also went last month.  His ashes are in a box on my oh's desk.  We are going to buy a very large pot and plant a rose on top of him (mobile,  in case we ever move).

Personally, I don't care what happens to me,  whatever makes those I've left behind happier.  I've seen a few rellies scattered in gardens of rembrance, but I find that really depressing and was glad Grandad didn't leave instructions about his ashes, although he had organised and paid for his funeral.

[dollylee]

My hubby loves to vacuum,......hover to some.... he and his vacuum drive me crazy.  I have told him if he goes first I will put him in an urn on the mantel and dump him on the floor once a week and then vacuum him up.  He actually thought this was funny and agreed if I promise to strap the urn to a golf cart and take him golfing once a week as well.

dollylee

[trish251]

Since I started researching the family history, I  found so much pleasure in finding my forebears final resting places, that I hate the thought of not having a "final resting place" that a g grandchild may find 100 years from now.

My folks had  talked of having their ashes scattered, (nowhere in particular) so when my mother died, I asked my dad would it be ok to have a small memorial & he decided that might be nice & he would like to be there as well when his time came.

So my daughter knows her folks can go anywhere, as long as there is a permanent marker, which hopefully will be there for the next few generations. I like the thought of children running around looking at the names   

Trish