My sister doesn`t want me to do the family history.

[rancegal]

'Lying In' was the time the mother spent in bed (up to 2 weeks, so bad for them!) after the baby was born. Also called 'being confined', and no wonder!

   I don't ever remember people using the word 'pregnant' when I was a child. Even doctors didn't say it. If married, she was 'expecting'; if not, she was 'in trouble'.

[Roger The Hat]

Oh, dear.

You've got me panicking, now.
My wife said that if I forgot to put the rubbish bin out again, this week, then I'd be "in trouble".!

Back to the original topic, my mother said she wanted me to stop telling her about our family's ancestry. I'm presuming that it just brings back sad memories for her.

[johngirl]

Oh dear Roger you aren`t pregnant are you

Yes many of our older generation had a very tough time in the old days. Times were hard not like today.

  Johngirl

[Nick29]

Oh, dear.

You've got me panicking, now.
My wife said that if I forgot to put the rubbish bin out again, this week, then I'd be "in trouble".!

Back to the original topic, my mother said she wanted me to stop telling her about our family's ancestry. I'm presuming that it just brings back sad memories for her.

I often wonder what my mother would think, and I don't think she would have been happy about it.  She was married before, and my sister was born "out of wedlock", because my mother was still married to someone else when my sister was born (my mother and father were living together).  Eventually they did get married when her divorce came through, but my mother was very embarrassed about it, and wouldn't talk about it.  It doesn't seem to be a big thing in these enlightened times, but illegitimacy could make you an outcast pre-WW2.

[LizzieW]

I wonder if my mother knew that her own mother had been 6 months pregnant when she married?  I didn't tell her when I found out as she was so disgusted that anyone had sex before marriage.  She knew my gran and her first daughter shared a birthday, but I bet she thought her mother had been married 12 months previously and not just 3.

Lizzie

[Doddie]

It seems a great shame that somone objects so strongly to a member of their family doing this sort of  research. My experience is just the opposite. Most of the relatives  I know are very interested in the research I am doing. It seems in many ways to have galvanised members of both sides of my family. Everybody seems to be genuinely fascinated with some of the information I have been uncovering even if is sometimes a bit 'unsavoury'. I know that I really appreciate receiving various  family related tit-bits of information (by phone, email & letter etc) from my relatives, even some that are quite distant. Believe me, for every relation (no matter how close) who objects to somone doing family research, there will be others who will think that what you are doing is very worthwhile and will encourage you.

Doddie

[MonicaL]

It is interesting for many of us how our parents and siblings react to realities from all our pasts.

My step-father, who is a fit and healthy 85 this year, asked me to do his tree last year, mostly curious about this mother's line. Not much love between him and his father, who had been a strict disciplinarian and shown little love to his children. I fretted for days about telling him I had found his father as a 14 yr old in a Reformatory School in 1901, whilst the rest of his family lived together in Glasgow.

I need not have worried, when I finally found the courage to tell him what I had found, and that his father had been sent there for being a bit wild as a young boy, he has not stopped laughing about the thought that his father for all his demeanor is later years, had a "past".

Each family has its own issues and history.

Monica