My sister doesn`t want me to do the family history.

[Gerome]

Johngirl,
 I'm glad your not giving up your research,this is a great hobby (all be it a frustrating one at times!lol)and i think it gives you information that is good to pass on to your children one day.I have gained a lot from my research,a great set of relatives on my paternel side,where before i had none,and maybe although it sounds a bit strange,more of an understanding of who i am and where im from.So carry on,enjoy yourself and how bad can it be to keep the memory of people alive?

Gerome

[suffolk*sue]

Has your sister not considered that someone else could be doing the same lines as yourself. If that info was found on the internet, how would she feel about that?
She might object to you doing it but she wouldn't have a say over anyone elses research.

You carry on and if you find any juicy titbits, drop a few hints and whet her appetite, bet she comes round in time.

 

[charlotteCH]

 suffolk*sue says if you find juicy bits where I'd say WHEN you find them- they are there always for everyone, who probes sufficantly then you'll have to decide whether to try to bait heror just keep quiet.

But stick with fh- it's a great hobby.

charlotte

[adee7]

You mentioned that your sister asked about your family
ancestry.

Is it possible that she has also been searching and as
the older one she wants to control the information and be
the first to present it?

Just a thought ......

Kathleen

[johngirl]

Thankyou for all your replys.

                                           My aunt who has since passed on plus a cousin and another of our John descendants have done our family history which my sister was also up in arms about. The John descendant put something into the research about our mother and her partner [not my father as he died many years ago] and my sister emailed her and told her in no uncertain terms that she had no right to put this information into the family history. Just luckily the lady in question set my sister straight. You can now see what I`m up against. The lady didn`t put anything into the family history that shouldn`t have been there. My aunt was the one who gave the John descendant  the information in the first place. My mother wouldn`t have cared about it at all.

                   Johngirl

[aghadowey]

Would agree with others here that you should carry on searching. Sounds like your sister has a problem with anyone (not just you) writing anything that she might not approve.

[lizdb]

BUT I think she has a point if she was just objecting to your putting family information online, rather than in your doing the research per se.  I am one of many who would never put a tree on Ancestry or Genes. 

I agree with this -

I wonder if it is that aspect that she objects to - that of having your mothers photo/personal details like birth date and place, marriage children etc published on the internet. She may not understand about 'locking'  things or restricting access. Just the whole concept of publisizing these sorts of details about your her (and your) mother on such a public place may sound to her disrespectful to your mum, and she may find the concept upsetting.

Now we know that is not your intention.

And I would not for ONE second suggest that you give up what is a fantastic worthwhiole etc hobby. That has nothing to do with her - it is your interest. It adds resepect to those of our families who have passed on as it establishes the truth before it gets forgotten and distorted as time passes.

But I can understand the internet bit.  I too would never post my tree on any site - but am more than happy to share it with anyone interested.

[drodgers34]

I tactfully wondered if your parens had memorial stones.

They arent private either - just more traditional than a tribute in the internet.

Mind you if you look at such as friends reunited, peopel love seeing the info on old friend but are reluctant to place their own info.

Its easier to have lots of information on more recent lives but perhaps we should be circumspect on those who died within the last (say) 20 years

[johngirl]

Thanks again one and all.

                                          The only reason I did put my tree onto a web site as it seemed to be a good place to finally put it all in order. Having my tree in folders with notes written on all sorts of bits of paper was getting a bit tiresome. I thought it would look so much better sorted in to something I could actually understand and when I had to find a person in my tree it would be only a few clicks of a button. I thought my sister would appreciate all my hard work. Silly me.

                          Johngirl