My sister doesn`t want me to do the family history.

[johngirl]

Hi,
    as anyone else come across members of your family objecting to you doing the family history. My sister has told me in no uncertain terms that by me doing the family history it is upsetting the memory of my mother. I put my family tree on Ancestry where only people who I invite can view it. I put photos of my mother and father [who is also deceased] onto my family tree site [only peolpe I invite can see them] and my sister went ballistic. What do others think I should do. Keep going with my research or bow down to my sister and just scrap the lot.

        Johngirl

[cando]

Hi

Oh dear...I would continue with your research....I find her objection quite strange.  Why do you have to let her know what you are doing.  Is it your research that is upsetting her or you placing your research on Ancestry?

Perhaps you may be able to compromise by removing the family tree from ancestry....you can always place it on Tribal Pages and also lock access....and

Good luck
Cando

[johngirl]

Hi Cando,
             I really don`t know what her problem is as she has known for quite sometime I was doing our family research. The only person who could view my tree on Ancestry was my sister as I hadn`t yet downloaded it. I was only just getting it up and running. I have now blocked her from veiwing it. The family research is something I enjoy and as a fellow researcher you would understand. I will therefore keep going with it and to H***** with my sisters opinion. Thanks Cando.

        Johngirl

             

[ambers]

Hi,

I would keep re-searching your family too, it's a shame your sister feels  cannot share the interest with you though .

Maybe she objected to the photographs   and why would your research upset the memory of your mother , do you know what she means by that?

Has she not thought that maybe your parents would be quite proud of you for taking such an interest in their backgrounds.

Ambers

[charlotteCH]

Is there something that maybe she fears will come to light?

Worth considering .   And blocking her from access to your stuff online is reasonable- you have a right to such an interest as Ffh and she doesn't run your life.

Stay with it.
charlotte

[johngirl]

Hi
    charlotteCH and ambers thanks for your opinion.

My sister has a warped view of things I think.
Family History is a great pastime and I will keep going with it. Blow her opinion. As for the photos no one else could view them so what her problem was it beats me. I have blocked her from viewing any of the tree so it is her lost. What she means by upsetting the memory of my mother is that my mother was a private person and did`t like anyone knowing her business.Family history is not just my mothers business is it, its generations of people business this family history stuff. No one sees anything that is so bad. Yes maybe a bad hair day photo of someone ,someone might be upset about but there really USN`t anything bad to find about people unless a past rellie was an Axe murderer or something of that nature. We have no skeletons so I don`t know what my sisters problem is. We have a few convicts but thats all. Oh! and a murder but who hasn`t got a little bit of gossip to hang around their tree.

          Johngirl

[forthefamily]

Is your sister older than you and maybe does know a family secret or maybe she has her own to protect   

My good friend is appalled by the fact that I'm doing family tree research. I offered to do hers and she flatly refused to let me then she told me why and told me some of her family history  Stuff that even her older sister doesn't know   

Sometimes the skeletons need to stay in the closet 

mab

[johngirl]

Hi Forthefamily,
                       no the trouble is my sister knows nothing of our family history.Yes she is older than me but only by eighteen months. Its just a privacy thing with her. I know there is nothing in our family history that is damaging to our family and especially nothing that can be damaging about her. Maybe jealousy but I`m not sure.

 Johngirl

[AnneMc]

Hello Johngirl:

I am sorry to hear that your sister is upset about you researching your family history. I think it is a wonderful hobby to have. I have found lots out about my families and I have met some wonderful people along with who have become good friends.  I really don;t know why some people have a fear of it.  As I now know were my interest in quilting comes from.  I have lots of rellies that were dress makers or tailors.

Maybe one day your sister will change her mind. My brother is not interesting except to keep saying we must come from Scotland as our last name is Thompson, but that is not true we come from Yorkshire and I have got the line back to the 1700's, but there is no way he will have it. So I just don;t tell him anything anymore. I figure he is the one missing out on all this wonderful family history. So keep on researching.

Cheers
Anne