My sister doesn`t want me to do the family history.

[stoney]

I've only found one member of my family who is against me doing the family tree - unfortunately he is the only remaining blood relative on my Dad's side (apart from my immediate family) who might be able to shed light on some of the "grey" areas! 

(some of you may have come across this story on rootschat before:

http://www.rootschat.com/forum/index.php/topic,209191.msg1120145.html#msg1120145)

For some reason my cousin has closed down all communication with me because I asked questions that "bothered" him. I gave up asking, because it was getting me nowhere, but just this week I've uncovered facts that he had a sister he's never talked about! The strange thing is, there doesn't seem to be any reason to "hush-up" details about this child, conceived in wedlock and dying of natural causes in infancy.

I've uncovered some really sad stories about my family and hubby's - and some real hooters, like the link above - just makes me appreciate my forebears all the more!

I'd say carry on with your research, if others don't like it they don't have to look at it - just make sure that no-one will be able to link them to what you publish!

[MarieC]

Tracey

That's a lovely, touching story!  You had me reaching for the tissues!    You must have been so happy to be able to do that for your dad at the end of his life!

MarieC

[Burrow Digger]

So far I havent had anyone tell me that I could not do the family tree, but then I also have no family members terribly interested either. I "inherited" the obsession from my aunt (she never married) and am still investigating my Burrow family in Devon. So far have only gotten back to 1766. I have a MAJOR brickwall here.

I have also done my husbands family as well - this was a lot easier because being French and Catholic in Canada means EXCELLENT records.  These lines go back to the early 1600s and late 1500s.

Both family trees are up on Ancestry, BUT I have NOT listed anyone below my grandparents generation (and none below my grandparents-in-law as well).
I only met one of my husbands grandparents - his grandfather who died 1 year after we were married.

And I have not uploaded any photos either. This way I sort of keep some privacy - by not having my mothers maiden name online for everyone to see.

[RachelK]

Hiya Johngirl


Theres a magnet on my fridge that read ' friends welcome, relatives by appointment'  might get it updated to read (unless your dead)

Willow x

HAHA that quote from the magnet made me chuckle, I completely understand the sentiment. My remaining family all live miles away from me, and much as I wish we were in more contact, they mostly seem incapable of being civil with each other, and as I am no where near I guess it's a case of out of sight out of mind?

As far as I'm aware none of them are particularly interested in genealogy, so it's nice to have found relatives (such as my distant cousin Willow 4873, fellow rootschat resident) who share an interest in the subject.

My OH merely takes the mick out of my obsession with 'dead people', the irony being I found a fully researched tree from his grandma's side online. If only I could be so lucky.

And my dear uncle in Wales has started taking an interest since I found a contact who kindly sent me a photo of gx2 grandparents, whom my uncle had never seen. Since my mum passed away he is now left without any family either, so being put in that position perhaps increases a need to look into the family's past? It is certainly my only way of having a sense of family, and I don't care if they are all long gone!

No one should try and stop you doing family history research, it is an enjoyable and often educational past time.

[Willow 4873]

Here Here!

Lucky OH! Knowing how we have struggled with tracing our tree Rachel it always seems to be that way. Whilst tracing my OH tree I've found lots of info on his side online but still no trace of our elusive George Mears lol

Willow x

[RachelK]

To be honest Willow, I haven't even looked into George Mears. As you know I took rather a long break from the research as had lots going on, and since I've been back online I've been tracing other lines thanks to some certificates that helped me along.

I did have a quick look for George and Elizabeth on 1841 last night and like you, no sign of them. I really should start looking into it, I see you've done loads on Elizabeth Owen already and I haven't been much help!

(sorry for interrupting thread lol)

[Willow 4873]

Lol no prob Rachel

I keep wandering off on other branches (including OHs) hoping he'll pop up one day - maybe he ran off and died somewhere else just to frustrate us 

Willow x

[kiwihalfpint]

Willow .... I have found they pop up when you least expect them .... especially when you aren't looking for them


KHP

[johngirl]

Hi RachelK and Willow4873,

I don`t mind at all if you go off the the topic of my sister doesen`t want me to do the family history.  My sister hasen`t spoken to me since I started the topic so if you can get some info from my topic about your family history ,go for it. I hope you both find George and Elizabeth, I know how frustrating it can be not being able to find that elusive ancestor. As you can see I`m still doing my family history and as for my darling older think she knows more than me sister, well I don`t really give to hoots.

 johngirl