Hi
I think it is probably best if I post the census entries for this family now before I forget who they are and where they were

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If they are not the correct people, please just disregard them.
Here is the sheet which shows James still at home with his parents (He married in 1869)......
1861
Rochdale RG9/3045 Folio 49 Page 40Joseph Stead Head M 46 Borough Police Officer Lancashire Salford
Mary do Wife M 45 Lancashire Manchester
Mary A do Daur U 19 Cotton Slubber Cheshire Moston
Thomas do Son 16 Cotton Packer Cheshire Lymm
James do Son 14 Carpet Printer ? Cheshire Lymm
Maria do Daur 13 Cotton Piecer Cheshire Appleton
Charlotte do Daur 9 Scholar Lancashire Manchester
6 Victoria Place, Wardleworth, Rochdale
DS