Hi tristiw, just read your blog, Mary is still alive in West Monkton in 1901 with daughter Alice, as Debs mentioned in previous post.
Cannot locate her death, but she could have gone to live with any of her children, as you suggested. Also son James married Louisa Parsons, and is in 1891 / 1901 with his family.
1901 for Mary - RG13 Piece: 2275 Folio 6 Page 3
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