Who Will Take Over My Family History???

[rover]

I totally agree with this line in the previous post.


I don't care if anyone follows it on - but I do care that I have done my best to make it available for them if they wish to build on it.


While I'm alive I'll stick to that belief.

[mike175]

Yes, I agree too. I hope my work won't be thrown out after I'm gone, but I'm really doing it to satisfy my own curiosity. And meanwhile, I'm expanding my knowledge of general history as well, because I keep looking up references to the various periods to try to understand the type of life my ancestors experienced . . . pretty grim in many cases. I much prefer living today!

Mike.

[mazwad]

I have a difficult problem with my history as my grandaughter is showing interest but her two brothers are adopted so it is not their history.  I mostly see them all together so I don't like to discuss it with her in front of them.

My daughter in law is the boys natural mother but she was adopted herself after being neglected by her mum so has no interest in her own history.

I think I will just gather as much information as I can and keep it until she is older.

[pennine]

I have a difficult problem with my history as my grandaughter is showing interest but her two brothers are adopted so it is not their history.  I mostly see them all together so I don't like to discuss it with her in front of them.

My daughter in law is the boys natural mother but she was adopted herself after being neglected by her mum so has no interest in her own history.

I think I will just gather as much information as I can and keep it until she is older.

My eldest son is adopted. I was adopted too but it was a family adoption so I know my background. My eldest son, even though I have offered information is not interested in his biological parents ( that is just biological mum you are my real mum) but he is very interested in the family history and is pleased he is part of the family that is related to illustrious or not very illustrious ancestors.
We have always been very open with my son about his origins and have never hidden anything from him that he has wanted to know since he was tiny. He is now 35 and has chased up some records for me and refers to these people as his ancestors.
Try to engage them you might be as surprised as I was. We found that I was descended from a 'Lady' in Scotland and now my son tells everyone jokingly 'don't speak to me like that I am a descendant of Lady....... you know'

Pennine

Pennine

[mazwad]

I am just wary of stirring up a hornets nest.  The circumstances of my daughter in laws adoption were pretty bad and although she knows she has brothers and sisters that were also adopted she doesn't want to know anything about them. 

She had the boys and split up with their father who wanted no contact, met and married my son and they have a daughter together and he adopted the boys.  They are twelve and their sister is ten and have always known about the adoption. 

I love them all equally, my grandsons came into our family as toddlers and completely stole our hearts and I don't want them to feel my grandaughter has family that they are not connected to. 

[drodgers34]

I was adopted (age 7 - good old 7yr itch !) by my mothers 2nd Husband and took his surname.

I know and correspond with my natural father so have done his line rather than to one of my current surname - I have no interst as i didn't paticularly like him and have no contact - I just keep an eye out fo  his death.

My wife has teased me over this and funnily enough I have traced the lines of adoptive parents where the original father is unknown.

I did do a quick speculative scetched FH of my adopted father and found that, even though I most remember he was snobbish and liked to criticize coal miners in particular (My natural father was a coal miner before retirement) he seems to have an ancestry which is loaded with mining families (south yorkshire of course)

[jellybeans]

Mazwad,
My son married a girl with 3 children (from 2 different fathers). I have included them on my tree as grandchildren. My daughter in law explained after she saw the tree, that the eldest had a different surname to the other two, and would n't want her real name on there. I asked this child what she thought, after getting permission from her mother, and the child (all of 11) said "But that is who I am, so my real name should be there".
Maybe, if you talk to your d.i.l. and the boys, they may like to be included as, after all, they are family! Only for your personal use, of course, I wouldn't put it on a public website.
Good luck, JB

[mazwad]

Thanks for your replies I think I will do as you suggest as after all their surnames are the same as ours now.

[familyman1]

i know how you feel here,i am in the same boat. i am teaching as much as i can to my 8 year old in the bid that she will carry it forward in to the future