Am I just too touchy?

[Annette7]

Last night I spent at least an hour searching the Scottish census for someone (whom I won't name) who'd posted a message.   I was successful - noted the entries and then posted a reply.

Today I see a response - just one word 'Cheers'.   Having used up my time, using resources that I subscribe too for a 'Cheers' makes me so mad.   One things for sure - I won't help that person again.

I often help people if I can and have always received a suitable thank you which makes it worthwhile.    But a 'cheers'!   Am I just being oversensitive?

Annette       

[Nutty1966]

No I don't think so, and on the whole I find most people are pleased when you do help but not all, don;t want them on their knees, but just a positive thank you

if someone had posted positive info for me I would be over the moon, 

Well done you 


Jane

[trystan]

Yikes - I better be careful what I write here. (Only joking).

It's often difficult to tell the tone of somebody's reply in a message and sometimes it can be easy to take offense at something. Some people have great difficulty using computers, or typing, and some have physical handicaps preventing them from writing much at all.

Some people do not reply at all, or do not even think of replying. I help people on RootsChat as an administrator and a lot of the time I don't even get a "cheers" after unraveling problems. It doesn't stop me from helping them again as I tell myself that perhaps this next time they'll thank me, or say "Cheers".

Trystan

[Maggott]

People are casual these days - especially when they'e emailing.  I've noticed for some time that a spoken 'Cheers' is used instead of 'Thanks' & I reckon this has seeped through to computer usage. I don't think for a moment that the person you were helping meant to be rude - if they'd been speaking to you I bet you would have had a big grin as well as the 'Cheers'.  At least you had an acknowledgement -these days (says the Old Party) that in itself is a mark of gratitude.  I don't like it either, but I reckon we're stuck with it!
Maggott

[kerryb]

Annette

As we become more and more communicators by email and text messaging unfortunately lengthy prose disappears.  Something I hate very much but unfortunately I think we have to live with it.  I try to use smileys to emphasize a feeling such as Thankyou  , somehow it makes me feel I'm adding more to my point.

This is a problem my boss and I have recently had to deal with.  I kept getting what I thought were terse, almost to the point of rude emails from her.  She was just thinking on the hoof of jobs she wanted me to do and whizzing her thoughts off to me.  I have learnt not to take it too personally!!

Kerry

[Annette7]

Thank you all for your comments.

I guess I need a thicker skin after all.   

Annette

[Gadget]

Hi Annette

It's happened to me quite a lot with not even a thank you or Cheers, as Trystan says.

I, like you,  do feel miffed (especially when I've used SP units) and vow not to help that person again but I soon forget who I've vowed not to help so I just help anyway 

You did get a kiss 

Gadget

Added - modified because what I said seemed to mean something else. It's the  lack of thanks (or cheers) that I was referring to 

[Lynn H]

Hi Annette. Just today for the very first time i thanked Toni with a "cheers"   It was not  meant to offend  and hope it wasn't taken that way. But as i have said before that i speak as i hear and find
                                     Lynn H.

P.S. Appologies to all who i offended.

[g a r]

Hi Annette,

As well as the "cheers", you got the satisfaction of a successful search. That is something that

someone (whom I won't name)

will not get.

To me that is "time well spent".

take care
g a r