Hi beemack
In 1881 this is what the Graham family consisted of:
Address: 8 Back Row, Hawick, Roxburghshire
John GRAHAM, heac, age 49, b. Hawick, occ: Publican
Helen GRAHAM,wife, age 49 b. Hawick
John GRAHAM, son, age 25, b. Hawick, occ: coach painter
Martin GRAHAM, son, age 16, b. Hawick, occ: App. Joiner
Nellie GRAHAM, dau. age 15, b. Hawick, occ: App. Milliner
Walter GRAHAM, son age 14, b. Hawick,Scholar
George GRAHAM, son, age 12, b. Hawick Scholar
Mary GRAHAM, dau, age 8, b. Hawick, Scholar
Agnes GRAHAM, dau, age 7, b. Hawick, scholar
Jessie GRAHAM, dau, age 5, b. Hawick, Scholar
Maggie LYLE, age 23, b. Berwick, General Servant
but as you can see Thomas was already living outside the home at that point......sooooo...here's a peek in 1871 where you find a 9 year old Thomas still at home at 8 Back Row, Hawick.....
John Graham, head, age 39
Hellen Graham, wife, age 34
Isabella Graham, dau, age 18
John Graham, son age 15
James Graham,son, age 13
Thomas Graham, son age 9
William Graham,son, age 7
Martin Graham, son age 6
Hellen Graham, dau, age 5
Walter Graham, son age 2
George Graham, son, age 1
Best wishes
Jean