Hi Gadget,
I know you werent accusing me of being sexist. It was'nt the soldier thing but the fact that he took part in the Charge of the Light Brigade.
Just to prove it, she was missing in 1881 census, but I have found her, suspect visiting her sister, at 91 Bondgate Darlington , not too far from Northallerton. At 91 Bondgate was James P Peacock, a doctor and his wife Isabella nee Warren ( could that be Wathen and her sister). They married in Edinburgh 07 Jun 1867 Edinburgh Parish, Edinburgh, Midlothian, Scotland, I suspect when they wre both students.
Tom