Any Don't Want To Knows In Your Family?

[jakky]

  Hi,

      Speaking to my elder sister about our line, she said  'I don't want to know about that stuff'
  I tried to tell her it was an interesting line,  and was she not interested in where she originated from and what our ancester did,
      no, an adamant no, she really does not want to know,
     
      It makes me feel sad and I don't know why, or worse still she knows some dark secret that is obviously going to the grave with her,
I suppose it takes all sorts,


Jakky


     

[Ecneps]

It seems there a lot of people like that, and I think that it's up to them, we should respect their feelings on the subject.  Sometimes older relatives feel that it's an invasion of privacy maybe, or they really just are not interested - perhaps in the same way that some hobbies don't interest me !!

Sometimes we all find out things we'd rather not have known, too.  I have exploded a couple of family myths, to the great disappointment of some family members.

Just because we Rootschatters all find family history fascinating ............lots of yawns from some people

Barbara

[Quiller]

Hi Jakky

Long time no speak.

I too, have relatives who just do not want to know, which I find strange and in someways very frustrating when they can't or won't remember details.
However I do agree with Barbara that we should respect their feelings.
(Ooops nearly fell off the fence there) 

I was in a world of my own the other day (life is so good there) 
thinking about why I do my family history and decided that for me it is the thrill of finding someone after hours/ days/months etc of searching. Also thinking outside the box when presented with a brick wall and getting a result !!

Fondest Regards

Quiller

[Ecneps]

I was in a world of my own the other day (life is so good there) 
thinking about why I do my family history and decided that for me it is the thrill of finding someone after hours/ days/months etc of searching. Also thinking outside the box when presented with a brick wall and getting a result !!

I love that world!  And I do agree about that thrill   
Barbara

[Cheryl Ann]

Hi,

Yep! loads of them!  Although there are a few who are interested in my findings, but not interested enough to get involved.

My other half and my kids just shake their heads as if to say 'she's lost the plot' LOL!!! 

Maybe I have, but I enjoy doing it.

Best Wishes,

Cheryl   

[Nutty1966]

My mum shares my interest, my Oh tries his best, but his eyes glaze over and the boys are too busy for the dead, one day I hope they may have an interest. 

Mind you my OH and boys play tennis, now that to me is eye glazing time, I don't stop them, I pay for it, support them but do not enjoy it all 

Each to his/her own, and as long as you enjoy your hobby thats all that matters

Jane

[Welsh Jules]

Whenever my OH starts boring me with the workings of the internal combustion engine I start talking about my family history so he knows what's it's like to be bored to death by a subject. We have now agreed that it's "each to their own"

Although he was watching something about horses on TV the other day and said "didn't you say that members of my family used work with horses?" I said they did, and that in his tree I'd found grooms, a few who worked as hauliers underground working with the pit ponies and that also his great uncle had worked with horses in WW1 where he'd looked after those used to pull cannon etc. So maybe he isn't a total lost cause and does listen to a few things I tell him

[ambers]

Hi Jakky

I was in a world of my own the other day (life is so good there)
thinking about why I do my family history and decided that for me it is the thrill of finding someone after hours/ days/months etc of searching. Also thinking outside the box when presented with a brick wall and getting a result !!

I couldn't have put it better myself Quiller, I feel exactly the same way.

I have only one living rellie up wards in age that I know...I just pass on all copy certificates and keep her informed of what I have found.
But she doesn't get the thrill of  finding them after months of searching like I do like I do
 
I do get the feeling anything not nice would be unacceptable to her though...me I love them warts and all

Ambers

[KathMc]

I have loads of them, but one in particular really angered me, a first cousin who I am very close with. I have found loads on a couple of the branches that we share and received last fall 3 original pictures of our gg grandparents and 11 of their children. In the family pic is our great-grandmother, who she knew very well and loved to death. We can't figure out which one she is in the pic though.

Anyway, I brought a bunch of stuff to share when I went to visit her in February. We were all sitting around the table (her and her husband, another cousin and wife, my aunt and my aunt's brother and sil). I pull out my folder and she says very loudly, "Oh no. I told you I am not interested and I don't want to know!" The conversation had been that she isn't interested in how I got there, but is interested in what I find. I was so embarrassed and sad after that. I put it all away. Her sister came over the next day and I showed her and she had fun looking at the pictures and the tree and updating some dates for their branch. I tried to keep it light, teasing my other cousin about not telling her anything, but I was really hurt that she felt the need to humilate me like that.

Kath