Contacts going quiet

[sallysmum]

I've been following this thread with interest.  I'm so glad there is a very innocent explanation for the lack of reply - maybe that is the same for why some of my contacts went quiet.  Sometimes we forget that our puters are not as robust as we would like to think they are.  A puter crashing can be compared with the old fashioned losing an address down the back of the sideboard!

Sallysmum

[wheeldon]

That's good news, Sharon, you will have to keep us updated about how it progresses.

Good luck

Fiona

[sharonf73]

Hi again

She's gone quiet again!  I forwarded to her all the info I had (the emails she had previously sent me) and I've not even received a reply of "thank you".

Huh!

Sharon

[pjbuk007]

I have been rather bad at keeping up contact with some distant rellies.  Either one takes it further and meets up etc, or after the initial exchange of info it gets hard to keep up.

I now try to keep all contacts in a FH folder and try to drop an email every 6 months or so.

So I guess many of these failed contacts are not really malicious.

[Alangeo1]

Hi Sharon,

Have read your thread with interest having just found it and would like to make a small comment.

We must remember that while most of us are addicted to this obsession we call Genealogy some people are merely interested. The advent of GR enabled all types to add their tree's online and have received many, sometimes literally hundreds, of connections.

Imagine you are dabbling in the puddle and catch a small nibble and that turns out to be a huge fish you can not manage. That is what can happen, this person enquires and receives what he/she may consider to be a mountain of information. Some of this information agrees with her little pile but the rest is new. Maybe as with the shark he/she just ran away. After all how can you respond except by "WOW! I do not know where to start." But I agree there should have been an explanation and an apology. But I never made one at school when I enterred the big boys playground by mistake.

Keep searching there will be other descendants and contacts to give you your information. Maybe one day you and your cousin will have a good laugh about this in your old age

Alan

[mahees]

The problem is when you give them loads of information then never hear a word back from them. It's really rude.

When I first joined Genes Reunited I saw someone on there with my G-Grandmother, and when he eventually replied and opened his tree, it turned out he was decended from her sister. I thought some of the people on his tree were strange, such as my G-G Grandad marrying 2 different people in the same year, despite both the women appearing on censuses with a husband of the same name, clearly a different person.
I sent him a long winded message with all the info I had on the family, and asked him why he thought it was the same person, and never heard from him again.

I have now received the marriage certificate for my G-G Grandparents and have found that he is completely wrong about who he thought their parents were and has a completely wrong line on his tree. I dont see why I should tell him though after he took my info and ran.  

Erin  

[sharonf73]

I think I'm just one of those people who expects manners - after all that is the way I was brought up.  I know not everyone will even think of saying thank you when the rest of us expect and naturally say it.

I was totally embarassed when I noticed on another thread I hadn't thanked the people to tidied up a photo for me and I'm hoping there aren't more I hadn't thanked!

Erin - I would be so tempted not to tell the man or you should contact him and say you have found evidence he has the wrong info but not go any further (maybe I do have a side where I don't have any manners! ).

Anyway, thank you to everyone who has read this thread, shared their stories with the rest of us and given me (and others) great advice!

Sharon