Contacts going quiet

[Cal241]

I know there is a lot of threads on GR and I'm sure this has been said before ... but why do they register, take the time to put details on, then never reply when someone contacts them?

I'm too nosey (or should that be interested!), and I want to know what my family from the past did, who they were, etc

Sharon

In answer to your question .......... God knows why??? I find that so bizarre too!!

[jim1]

Some people like to play the numbers game and get as many ancestors as they can.she's got what you have and now she's looking for more from someone else it seems.It's a pity they seem happy with that when the real interest is how our ancestors lived which can only be got from communicating with other family members like yourself.

[sharonf73]

Jim, you've probably got it spot on there.

I'm more interested in tryng to find out how they lived, get wee snippets of their lives.  Maybe that is why I've not gone as far back as I can because I keep getting sidetracked!

Sharon

[jim1]

that's right.....you come across someone intriguing and thats it off you go until you know everything about them.Much more satisfying than having a lot of William & Elizabeths going back to the year dot.

[Subaru]

 I have an ancestor that was a Pirate. He died 1756 and who cares.


I would love to have somebody interesting like a pirate in my family tree.  It shows character.  My grandfather has proved elusive, and I think has made most of his life up, but SO WHAT!!!  I don't feel embarassed for him, just annoyed that I can't find any genuine information on him.  There's no record of him wherever he was supposed to be, and in the army records etc.  I still wouldn't be embarassed about him, and it wouldn't stop me from getting  in contact with somebody with the same problems, if they were related.  So far, I've found no-one, and expect to find no-one.

Don't bother about it too much.  I would e-mail the person and explain that you have previously contacted them, and say you are curious that they have not replied.  There's not much more you can do is there?  Obviously something bothering them somewhere, but probably not as big an issue as you think.

Rosemary

[sharonf73]

Wish I had someone as exciting as a pirate!

There are family rumours about my g grandfather - this mystery aunt's father - some that I have managed to prove are incorrect.  If this relative who doesn't want to know me, has been told of these rumours then she can carry on believing them to be true, although they are not.  Her loss.  We know the truth.

Sharon (who has just realised the time and now off to bed!).

[lindylou2_2002]

We had a family scandal. My mothers cousin is my only living relative that can tell me anything about my great grandmother. But due to the scandal(my grandfather was divorced coz his wife committed adultery and had a child with another man. Then took her children and as far as I can decipher. They never mixed with my mums family) But coz of this old cousin wont talk about the family.

Really frustration as mum is gone and her true brothers and sisters were to young to remember their grandmother. The half siblings are all dead now so it would heart nobody.

But after a couple of letters and absolutely no response I have given up hope of getting any info, which makes me so said.

[Ruskie]

Many of the "scandals" of the past would not be given a second thought in this day and age.

[Subaru]

I think some of these people get ofended by what there people did. My thought is it was a hundred or two years ago. I have an ancestor that was a Pirate. He died 1756 and who cares. If you stew about what happened hundreds of years ago must not have anything else to do  al b

This is the quote I meant to use earlier.  It didn't come out as a quote!!  Just me and technology.  I really do wish I had an ancestor who was a pirate.

My grandmother's sister had a baby out of wedlock, which was brought up by her brother and wife.  She then moved to London and worked in the Eagle Tavern as a barmaid.  When I read up about the place, lots of young men went there after work to be 'entertained'!!!  She ended up in an asylum.  I think it's all really interesting, and have been trying without success to get her admission records.  But I know my dad would think it was awful if he knew about her.

Rosemary