Hi Deb,
Thanks for all your help,Ruth Amelia Heale b1834 did marry Thomas Ladd in 1862 and had 1 son Thomas Frederick William Ladd in 1864.
She was indeed working with her brother George Frederick Heale b1846 as per the 1861 Census you found,there brothers disappearance is a mystery though.
William Henry Heale Snr' b1799 in Ugborough Devon,was injured whilst serving in the Royal Navy and hospitalized at the Greenwich Royal Naval Hospital,I believe Ruth his wife gave birth to my missing William b1832 in Kent for this reason,'theres never been an association with Kent',before or after this event.
FamilySearch.org gives his birth as 26th Apr 1832.
Thanks again,I shall keep plodding on.
Regards Bernie