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Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« on: Sunday 31 December 06 19:01 GMT (UK) »
Hi I received a card a few days ago  from a woman claiming to be my half sister. I have already been in touch with a half sister and brother and at the time me until her mother died
My problem is do I contact this lady, she has left it up to me, I have an address and a phone number but what do I do?
Bell, Brodsworth, Felkirk, Wath-Upon-Dearne, Yorkshire<br />Bright, Eyre, Jessop, Wilkinson, Sheffield, Yorkshire<br />Fielding, Lound Retford, Lincolnshire and Sheffield, Yorkshire<br />Law,  Felkirk, Wath-Upon-Dearne, Yorkshire<br />Lister, Flockton, Wath-Upon-Dearne, Yorkshire<br />Mitchell, Langsett, Nr. Penistone Yorkshire.<br />Walton, Cudworth, Barnsley Yorkshire.<br />Stanger, Lincolnshire, Northamptonshire, Yorkshire.<br />Gratwick, London and Kent<br />Fahy, Limerick, Southern Ireland

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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #1 on: Sunday 31 December 06 19:05 GMT (UK) »
Hi,

I'd write and try to get details confirmed then you will know if she is who she claims to be; but then I'm naturally curious!

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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #2 on: Sunday 31 December 06 19:07 GMT (UK) »
This message seems to be edited some what . What I wanted to say was that my experience with the half brother was a nightmare and now hubbie is saying be very careful etc. I have got to say half brother was a user but half sister was o.k. What would be other people's advise here?
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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #3 on: Sunday 31 December 06 19:28 GMT (UK) »
pennine

is this lady from the same family as the other half siblings. If so, is it possible to speak to your half sister to see if she knows her, etc.
As hubby says just be careful and don't raise your hopes too high.
Best wishes with your decision
dinie
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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #4 on: Sunday 31 December 06 19:47 GMT (UK) »
Pennine,

I have to admit that the curiosity of the situation would drive me crazy as well. Obviously, she has your address and can satisfy her own curiosity about you if she chooses without you knowing about it. My suggestion is that you follow the basic safety rules and meet in a public place- let's face it you are dying to know more about her or you wouldn't ask for advice here. Get  hubby to go with you or another person you can trust to rescue you from an uncomfortable situation. You know someone who can remind you to "pick up Aunt Minnie in ten minutes" type of thing.

If the contact is to be other than a face to face meeting, again, the best thing is to give only what you would have no problem seeing posted on a local billboard for the world to see. If it works out look how much richer you life may become. If not, then you gave it a shot, got your curiosity satisfied and you never have to open your door to that person again.

I wish you luck with this - you may find much more than you ever dreamed of finding.

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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #5 on: Sunday 31 December 06 20:22 GMT (UK) »
I agree with Granma Anne. Play it safe, but I would definitely play it.

What a shocker, to find something like this out. My dad found this out and chose to ignore the situation. Some of us have been secretly in contact with the other family a little. I don't know your situation toward the halves, but my dad's was due to philandering and very painful to him I am sure.

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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #6 on: Sunday 31 December 06 20:34 GMT (UK) »
Thanks for those replies, yes I agree that I could find something special but what I wanted to say in my original posting which somehow got edited  don't know why ( probably because I am computer thick) was that this lady was supposedly told of my existence when I first contacted my natural mother. I was told then by my natural mother that she had no interest in me what so ever. However, recent card states she did not even know about me until mother's death. Natural mother has proved to be a perverter of the truth being ten years older than she said she was and she told lies on her second marriage cert. which stated she was a spinster etc and much more. My bad experience with half brother makes me wary. Thought I might write first and put my view point. She must have got my address from Nat. Mother's husband who has sent me a Christmas card since mother's death. We did not get one this year so I can only assume that he must have died too. Got to say when I first found natural mother her husband who is no relation what so ever was over the moon and made me really welcome. She on the other hand, denied all knowledge until I confronted her with irrefutable evidence she then back peddled and went for the sympathy vote. I was pleased to have found her at first but then ended up disliking her although I never fell out with her. I once asked her why she had abandoned me as a baby and she had been drinking at the time. She replied that I was spoiling her life.  How true that must have been. I was her first born and she was married to my father at the time.  They divorced after her repeated affairs with other men.Words came back to haunt me - Grandma on my dad's side, who brought me up, said when I indicated that I might find mother one day,  ' I hope you never find her, she is a vicious self centered woman who will cause you nothing but trouble. Her son my half brother, certainly did.
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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #7 on: Sunday 31 December 06 20:38 GMT (UK) »
Oh Pennine, I can see why you have the hesitancy. It doesn't sound like it has been easy. I would take things slow and think about it. Let us know what you decide. I am sending a virtual hug for the New Year.

Kath
Sligo: Davey (also Mayo), McCluskey, McNulty
Wexford and Staffordshire: Hayes, McClean
Galway and Staffordshire: Scott
Coventry: Wells, Collins, Palmer, Moody, Beck, Mickelwright, Husbands
Ireland: McNulty (Sligo), Kealy, Murphy (Carlow) Connolly, Gillen, Powell, Ryan, Moore, Martin
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Re: Stunned ! sister out of the blue
« Reply #8 on: Sunday 31 December 06 20:43 GMT (UK) »
Hi Pennine

Good luck with your decision, my friend had a very similar experience, and luckily she did take it slowly, which was the best decision she ever made, as it worked out, her half brothers and sisters were not the type of people she wanted to mix with. 

Again good luck and take your time, no rush, half sister not going anywhere.

Happy New Year

Jane
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