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Offline millymcb

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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #63 on: Thursday 03 May 07 21:09 BST (UK) »
This is what Manchester City Council think of your ancestors "Absolutley Nothing" its all money,money,money and zero respect

Dig-em-up or leave in disrepair.

http://www.rootschat.com/links/01hx/

http://www.rootschat.com/links/01hy/

Regards
Ken

There's another story here about Cheetham Hill

http://www.rootschat.com/links/01hz/

Apparently it was still in use up to 1970s so it's not even as if there were no living relatives.

A lot of my ancestors are buried in Philip's Park Cemetery in Manchester which is being allowed to run into disrepair.   Call me cynical but I wonder if this has anything to do with it's location  - a stones throw from the proposed super casino site? 

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McBride (Monaghan, Manchester), Derbyshire (Bollington,Cheshire), Knight (Newcastle,Staffs), Smith (Chorley, Lancs & Ireland), Tipladay (Manchester & Yorkshire) ,Steadman (Madeley,Shropshire), Steele (Manchester,Glasgow), Parkinson (Wigan, Lancashire), Lovatt, Cornes & Turner (Staffs) Stott (Oldham, Lancs). All ended up Ardwick, Manchester
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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #64 on: Thursday 03 May 07 21:37 BST (UK) »
millymcb

My dad lived on Crescent road one street over from the cemetery, and I do remember him telling me one of his aunts is/was buried in it.

Phillips Park - dont get me going on that one. I go there at least twice a month grave hunting for rootchatters, also reles on the wifes side buried there.

When I go through the gate I just say to myself Morning/Afternoon folks its me again - they all understand now what I am doing in the place.

The place is a disgrace, the area around the cemetery is under massive redevelopment, new houses, sports city, ex casino.

OK it old and closed to new burials but it could be turned into a place of peace and tranquillty without destroying the remaining headstones.

The chapel could be a small local museum - the outer buildings could be offices - the so called dangerous headstones should be placed face up on a grave.

If they want someone to look after the place I would be the first to put my hand up. 

Ken
   
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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #65 on: Thursday 03 May 07 22:02 BST (UK) »
Hi Kenhar...

I expect the cemetery is  a bit of a thorn in the side of the developers and they probably have it in their sights.


McBride (Monaghan, Manchester), Derbyshire (Bollington,Cheshire), Knight (Newcastle,Staffs), Smith (Chorley, Lancs & Ireland), Tipladay (Manchester & Yorkshire) ,Steadman (Madeley,Shropshire), Steele (Manchester,Glasgow), Parkinson (Wigan, Lancashire), Lovatt, Cornes & Turner (Staffs) Stott (Oldham, Lancs). All ended up Ardwick, Manchester
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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #66 on: Tuesday 27 July 10 18:34 BST (UK) »
If you hear anyone in the grave complain - start worrying!
GREENHOUGH, Birkenshaw, West Yorkshire; LISTER, Birkenshaw, West Yorkshire; TILLOTSON,Colne, Lancashire


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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #67 on: Friday 27 August 10 23:45 BST (UK) »
I went for my first grave yard wander today......looking for a relative, my Dad's brother who was buried in 1952, a victim of the Harrow train crash.

I drove in through the gates and followed the road to the red gravelly section that had arrowed parking signs implanted at measured points throughout the lane/road/highway to heaven. Leaving the car and looking at the grave stones I thought this would be easy, couple of hundred grave stones, couple of days work walking round till I found my relative......then I looked round behind me......there was hundreds of them. I realised then that it wasn't going to be easy.........so I gave up looking and just went for a wander.

To think that every one of them was alive just like you and me ....they had good days and bad days...likes and dislikes....fantastic lifes and if we delve a little deeper, hard hard lifes.

I thought, right John (the guy I was looking for).....I'll clear my mind and you like the Olympic Flame will no doubt lead me in some pyschic way in the general direction to your last place of abode. Of I went in search ......the weird feeling I kept having was.............sometimes in films you see the dead hanging about their graves.....well, every so often, I had to keep looking behind me just incase someone was creeping up.........turned out that John's grave was way behind me and I mean way :)

I like grave yards......but they are scary :)

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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #68 on: Saturday 28 August 10 09:36 BST (UK) »
Welcome to RootsChat Jim.


You were indeed lucky to find the grave you sought.

If its a public cemetery, as opposed to one connected to a local church, then there may be an office attached to it, or the council offices ... which might have ... indeed SHOULD HAVE records and maps of who is buried where.


If its a church graveyard, then the local vicar will have records of who is buried where.
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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #69 on: Friday 07 January 11 00:05 GMT (UK) »
Im always very careful walking through graveyards, as Ive always thought it disrespectful walking on someones final resting place,
I used to think as a (strange ) teenager that I wouldnt walk into the persons house without being invited
and walking on the grave is walking onto their home without invitation,

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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #70 on: Friday 07 January 11 00:09 GMT (UK) »
Does anyone know whats happening with Lambeth cemetary in tooting , a lot of it is fenced off, and it has a very strange atmosphere there nowadays

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Re: Grave yard etiquette
« Reply #71 on: Friday 07 January 11 01:59 GMT (UK) »
This is what Manchester City Council think of your ancestors "Absolutley Nothing" its all money,money,money and zero respect

Dig-em-up or leave in disrepair.

http://www.rootschat.com/links/01hx/

http://www.rootschat.com/links/01hy/

I was in Cheetham Hill this morning the rest of the old shopping centre is now down so it will only be a short time before we have a new car park in place of the cemetery.

When I pop my socks - kick the buckets - shuffle off this mortal coil I am going up in a puff of smoke and being thrown to the wind.

At least they could never dig me up.

Regards
Ken

I am 'missing' several family members due to Manchester Council.
Mums family were in the Weslyan, now under the shopping centre (does anyone know WHICH bury cemetery the reburial was in by the way?)

Dads family were in Orford Rd Cemetery off Briscoe lane ........ now a playing field!

n Dads gt-grandparents Headstone was removed as 'unsafe' in Phillips park - dipite the fact it had stood safely for about 100 years!

With regard to Cemetery Etiquette - I personaly walk as close as I can to the back of the headstones whenever I can, and if I HAVE to walk across a grave then I make sure i read the info on it, just so I feel I am showing some respect by paying attention to WHERE I am walking - n believe it or not I found a relative because I did this!

Gaille
Manchester – Bate(s) / Bebbington / Coppock or Coppart / Evans / Mitchell / Prince / Smith

Cheshire Latchford – Bibby / Savage / Smith.
Cheshire Macclesfield,  Bollington & Rainow – Childs / Flint / Mc'rea
Cheshire Crewe – Bate(s) / Bebbington
Shropshire Wellington, Wobwell – Smith
Walsall Midds – Smith
Norfolk - Childs / Hanwell / Smith

Also looking for:
Mc'Rea/McCrea – Ireland to Cheshire

And
any relatives of Margaret Bibby married to Thomas Smith all over country