Subject should mean SUBJECT

[Necromancer]

...but don't know that I've ever said or expected a please....
It is a forrum, after all, and these are "queries", so not so sure that would be a requirement...?  ? 

I dont understand why RootsChat being a Forum would negate the need for common courtesy.... does one do this in everyday life - I think not ?

[kerryb]

No but it is courteous to say thank you to someone who has helped you or at least it used to be....

Kerry 

[sheddyg]

I don`t really mind whats in the subject line - I just love the challenge!

I have to own up to feeling its quite an acheivement if I`ve beaten 40,000 other lightening fast Rootschatters to be the first to post a reply!! Probably not really in the spirit of things here, but sometimes the competative side of my nature gets the better of me!

The one thing I have found myself doing lately is checking the "last posts" of the person asking the question. I have noticed there are a few individuals who seem to post a huge amount of requests without ever helping anyone else out or even joining in any general discussions like this one.

These individuals seem very polite and hugely grateful but if its only ever a one way street I feel very annoyed.

sheddyg

[bearkat]

There will always be givers and takers in this world.

Hopefully some of the takers will become givers as they become more knowledgable family historians.

But some will just take and run.

[kerryb]

But then I'm one of the ones who hardly ever asked for help these days, because I'm ticking over gently without really doing much in depth family history at the moment, but boy can I talk!!!!!!

Discussions like this and answering other's requests. 

But give it a few months and I might get back into the family history and the requests will go up again. 

Kerry

[trish251]

Hi kerry

I think you reach a stage in your research where what is needed is hours pouring over parish records and the like - and I tend to feel it's not really something you can ask someone else to do for you - hence like you I don't have many requests at the minute.

But if there's anyone out there who feels the need to do indepth studies of parish registers      do please contact me!

Otherwise I keep saving for the trip

I also  think, if you have to complain about how folks do/don't ask their questions,  then it's probably better to stay away from answering any that annoy you. I seem to get a "hit" from finding the answer - if I get a thank you (which I usually do) that is an added bonus 

Trish

[kerryb]

Hi Trish

I so agree with you!  Trouble is I've now got 4 Counties to visit to see the necessary parish registers and I don't know which one to start with first.   It's not so much the saving of the trip which is the problem for me, I'm just a little bit closer than you I think!!! but it's the planning the jouneys and finding the time.

The hit I get from helping someone with their request keeps me going until I am able to get some answers to my conundrums

Kerry

[Necromancer]

Good points made and advice given in the last 5 posts I feel.

Especially agree with sheddyg

Theres also some 'givers' on here whose style could be a bit less abrupt to requestors, especially people new to Family History....

I will refrain from using smilies in this post as they seem to be misinterpreted by some ....

[trish251]

I could suggest a couple of counties Kerry      I think I have about 8 in England plus 4 in Scotland & I am just too scared to think about Ireland. (One of my Irish ancestors gives a different county of birth on each document he had to complete    ). For unknown reasons I don't seem to have any Welsh ancestors

Trish