Isn't it frustrating ...

[stonechat]

I have found some of my research copied (including links I now know are suspect)

I don't think those people can get much satisfaction

Bob

[hcoldron]

Ah, I confess, when I first started I couldn't give much (if anything) back - and I do sometimes go for weeks without checking my various boards...

That all said, I do like to get back to people - at the very least a "thank you, but that's not my rellie" or "That's excellent - can you tell me how you found that?"

The most frustrating thing for me (being new at this) is when someone finds something REALLY useful, but then never responds when you ask them how/where they found it! As you say, it's the research and the finding things out yourself which is the fun!

And, I'm looking forward to my holiday in November when my OH has finally agreed to drive me to a couple of archives! Woo! I'll be posting a (small) lookup offer in the relevant places. After all, I've had SO much help from here, it's only fair to offer it in return.

[tawny75]

I agree with the above

I have now removed my tree from GR, I will put it back but only my direct line.  I have had one wonderful contact through GR and we shared info quite happily, but it annoys me when people ask for access and then don't share back.

I also don't like that fact that living people cannot be hidden, when I re upload I will put Grandparents upwards only

[SallyF]

I've only once not replied to a Genes contact.  I was once contacted by a lady and shared everything I had.  A couple of weeks later a man contacted me with loads of my rellies.  When I checked it was just a straight rip off of the previous lady's tree, right down to incorrect spellings and minor inconsistencies.   Avoided him like the plague and never heard another thing.

Bit spooky.  Just after I said this last night, I was closing down my session and noticed I had received an e-mail from Genes. 

It was only from this same man and it was just the "please give me access to your tree" request.  After months of nothing, it was weird to receive it just when I'd been talking about him.  Do you think his ears were burning?   

Just for the record, I have replied and offered help to specific questions, but no access to my tree.   I think that's fair, don't you?

Sally

[kerryb]

Sally

I think that is more than fair.  If you offer help and he comes back to you, fair enough and you can allow him access to your tree.  But communicating is a two way street!!!!

Kerry

[Ecneps]

Maybe he's a rootschatter...if so he'll know what he should do now
 

[SallyF]

Maybe he's a rootschatter...if so he'll know what he should do now
 

That DID cross my mind.     Ooops.   

Oh, well, we'll see what happens.

Sally

[smeghead]

are we not missing the point of GenesReunited is it not meant so we can build our tree and find contacts where we can share information!!!!! I have come across lots of relies on genes where we have shared information indeed some of those contacts I have recommended to this site ( gold star from Trystan). I know it can be frustrating when people just copy tree site. A good tip here is to privatize tree eg birthdays and personnel details of living people and I was pleased to see on a contacts site who had put me on there tree I was ten years younger as they had guessed my age

Jim

[Bill749]

Ancestry insist that all information on living individuals other than the family name is removed from family trees - e.g. "Living SMITH" - pity GR doesn't do the same!

Regards, Bill