it is MY family tree!!!!!

[Boongie Pam]

Oh dear, that's not very good.  I wouldn't volunteer any more info if that was me.  I'm in contact with 3 people who I share a particular ancestor with and I've given them everything, and they have reciprocated. 

Hopefully we'll continue to work together.

In your situation if I was asked - I'd give but maybe wouldn't spontaneously send.  Maybe ask how they're getting on and see if they give you any info - maybe they aren't as obsessed as us nutters!?

P

[Fitty]

There is'nt much you can do Pauline.  I've heard of this before and don't understand why they wont share thier info.   Maybe you should hold back a little next time it happens.

[Kazza]

I don't understand it either,  every time I make a breakthrough I want to tell EVERYONE,  wether they are interested or not.     To be able to share it with someone doing the same thing is a dream of mine.     

Until then I bore my husband to death,  and moan to you lot.   

Kazza.

[Fitty]

Gawd! aint that the case!

I went for lunch yesterday with two ex workmates and bored them to death with dead rellies!   lol

[Kazza]

We should form our own Dead Rellies Club   

[Pollynation]

I'm a lot like you Kazza, i want to shout from the rooftops when i find new info. Unfortunately my family aren't as nuts about dead rellies as me

I think that when i see my cousin next i will ask how she's getting on but will not offer her any more info.

Thanks for the advice everyone,

P.s. I might have found someone else who is also related, were just trying to find a connection, but the surname and area is definately right.

Pauline

[madbadrob]

Dont see the problem with it to be fair.  Yes this hobby is all about sharing but why should one side of the family pay the money and the other side get the benefit?  Personally I dont care I share with all my new found cousins and in fact a number of us have formed a group and we mail frequently.  Well 3 out of 12 do but then we are the one's with the time and the geographical locations to assist.  What gets me more are those who never tell you when they change address or never acknowledge your sending the information it bugs the hell out of me nearly as much as those who on mailing lists and message boards request help and then dont say thanks.  ( not on here as yet I can say) 
I do wonder how many people use just the internet to do their research and how many get the certs newspaper articles parish records etc.

rob

[Pollynation]

Personally i don't think that just the information on the internet is enough.

I like having all the info i can get, parish records and any gravestone photos i can take ( if there is one). It is much more enjoyable to see the places that people lived, i know this is not always possible for some people especially people who have emigrated.

I am planning more trips as we speak
Pauline

[Jacquie]

I have been doing my family tree for almost three years and I share all the information I collect with all my relatives except one and that is for personal reasons.  I know that sound mean but it is a long story.  This family member has had her side traced by a cousin.  I asked her for a copy of her tree about 12 years ago and I am still waiting.  It's a case of she want to know everything but is not willing to share or maybe she just doesn't like me.

Anyway most of the Aunts, Uncles and cousins always say thank you for the info.  But there are a couple of them that don't,  so I am left wondering did they get the info or was it lost in the post.  Sometime I don't think they realize the time and sometimes the expence that goes in to research.
I like to get every certificate that I can.

Anyway I have only gone down the wrong line once, lucky for me I did not ordered any certificates. 

Regards Jacquie.