Hi Mike thank you so much for your time and trouble to find this information for me.
Derek Gratwick was my dad and I was only nine at the time. Having no mother ( another story) I was devastated but no one told me anything and I was not allowed to go to his funeral. His mother and father, my grandparents, looked after me for a further 12 months and then I was adopted by his sister, really my aunt.
I have got to admit I was a bit choked up reading the reports as no one explained anything to me at the time and the info I gave to you was gleaned through eves dropping on adult conversation. He was only thirty two at the time and it was such a tragic waste of life.
I did not even know my dad was cremated. I spent several of myearly teenage years touring cemetries in Sheffield looking for his grave because if I mentioned him I was told to shut up, and forget about it!
I guess I was probably in trauma at the loss of my dad for many years and I remember thinking that as he had been in the army, it was all a lie and he was on a secret mission somewhere, I had to keep quiet and go along with it and one day he would come back to get me.
I finally realised when I was about fourteen that he was never coming back. I was brushing my hair, looking into my dressing table mirror, when my eyes drifted to the photo I had of him, the same one that is on my office wall now. The shock was terrible and I admit I went off the rails for a bit but couldn't explain why.
I finally found out that my dad had been cremated after a massive row at home about me being out late wandering around a graveyard. When I think of all those hours I walked about looking for him it is unbelievable.
A lesson for all to be learnt here, tell the truth to your children and avoid untold damage that can stretch far and away into the future. I am now fifty five and this is the first time I have ever read a detailed report of my dad's death apart from some cutting in the Sheffield star that amounted to about four lines., saying that he died in an accident. Incidently, I have never heard of anyone dying from fractured ribs have you?
Thank you once again.
Pennine