evesl,
Let me trow in a couple of snippets that might clear up a few things or even confuse matters.
Yorkshireman George Yeoman married Ellen/Elleanor Ward in 1857 (reg Easington District). They have a son James born 1860.
Yorkshireman John Spensley married Alice Batson in 1860
(reg Sunderland). They have a dtr Ruth circa 1863.
In 1875 George Yeoman married Alice Spensley
(reg Sunderland)
On Census 1881 George/Alice, and family including 21 yr old James. live at 35 Maple St, Sunderland.
So too do a "head-less" family of young Spensleys, including Ruth,aged 18.
I will assume that Alice Yeoman is Ruth's mother, Alice Spensley nee Batson.
In 1889 in Sunderland James Yeoman and Ruth Spensley marry. On Census 1891 they are in West Moor St, (4132-59-25) very close to George/Alice (4132-55-17)
On Census 1901 at 10 New Durham Rd ( 4716-47-16)
Ruth is in the houseld of George ( her father-in-law) and Alice (her mother). With mariner James Yeoman, away at sea as Cathy conjectured.
Interesting to note thast the "English Naming Pattern" had it that when a manmarried asecond wife, the firstdtr born of the new unionshould be given the first name of the deceased wife !
Michael Dixon