Sasha
Could you please see if you can find a Thomas Milner and his wife, Jane, in the Stamford census sample you have for 1861. Both were born 1800-1816 i.e. would be between 45 & 60 yrs old. His earlier occupation on a birth certificate for his son shows him as a Lawn Keeper - children with them could be Henry, Robert, Thomas or Mary. Thanks --Judy