Hi All who have replied since I revived this stream a few days ago.
I will try to comment on a few things across several replies:
Distant relatives first-Thor.
My wife Gill is the daughter of a Barbara Fogden, who was in turn the daughter of Vera Benson, who was the daughter of John Thomas Benson a tobacconist in Oxford. He was the youngest son of James Benson, much discussed in this stream. He was one of only two children born in England Staffs, where James had gone to work as a miner-he died 6 mths before the birth. So James is my wife' Great, Great Grandfather. JT's "10" siblings were James, Isabella, Mary, Margaret, Alice, James, Charlotte, Peter, Alexander and Jessie.
Jane Armstrong has been hard to track down-possibly because of the interchangeable Jean/Jane noted by Sancti.
The 1841 census I had seen and I think the James Benson lodging on his own in 1851-despite marriage the year before does not surprise-I had found that as well-it is interesting that it is with an Irish family and in a mining area. James became a miner and his father Peter was from Ireland-in that other than some suggestions that Benson/Irving was common in Belfast/Shankill-we have no idea which bit, then maybe there was a connection to Sligo?.
I don't think the 1851 census for Jean/Jane is right. there is no way they had a 9yr old son and I think there is evidence that Jane came from old Benson home area of Galloway-Near to Gatehouse of Fleet-Blackcraig?. To many Armstrongs and limited birth/census records mean that I am not sure I have properly tracked her down in 1841 as yet.
Cheers
Chuzzle