Hi Arranroots! Thanks for your continuing interest!

Ok, here goes, expunged of all my romantic stuff about French prisoners of war etc!

Emma Hamlyn m. Charles Lot Cheeseman on 30 Jun 1864 in the Parish Church, Paddington, Middx; (both full age), he a coachman, no employment given for her; he's living in Rusthall, Kent; her address is given as Gloucester Terrace; his father was Charles Cheeseman, labourer (of Beenham, Berkshire), and her father was William Hamlyn, butcher.
Witnesses: John Mason & Anne Hanlon
They had two children: Emily (1865) and Charles (1867). Don't know what became of Emily. I have Charles' birth certificate. He was my great grandfather:
19 Apr 1867, Denny Bottom, Rusthall - boy - Charles
Father - Charles Lot Cheeseman - coachman (domestic servant)
Mother - Emma Cheeseman, formerly Hamlyn
Emma died in 1870 and I have her death certificate:
27 Feb 1870, Rusthall, Emma Cheeseman, 35 yrs old, wife of Charles Lot Cheeseman, coachman;
phthisis pulmonalis 5 yrs certified
C.L. Cheeseman, present at death, Rusthall
Charles remarried the following year:
21 Mar 1871, St Paul's Church, Rusthall, Kent: Charles Lot Cheeseman (widower) & Clara Verrall (spinster); both of full age; he's a groom; both resident in Rustall; frs: Charles Cheeseman and Henry Verrall, both labourers.
Witnesses: Adam Lattimer & Frances Huckle.
I know all about the Cheesemans in Berkshire and am now trying to trace the Hamlyns.
We have found only two William Hamlyns who were butchers and who seem to have had daughters called Emma around 1835, when our Emma would have been born:
1) William Hamlin of Bovey Tracey, Devon.
IGI records the christening of an Emma Jane Hamlin, the daughter of William & Sarah Hamlin, in Bovey Tracey on 15 May 1836. We know from the 1841 Census that William Hamlin of Bovey Tracey was a butcher, although there is no mention of an Emma among his children in 41 or later censuses. We know from the 1851 Census that he was dead by then and his widow and eldest son have taken on the butchering business. There are records in the Newton Abbot district between 1846 and 1848 of three deaths of men called William Hamlin, one of which is probably him.
2) William Hamlyn of St Giles & Bloomsbury Workhouse, London, described as a butcher aged 60 in the 1841 Census, not born in the county (i.e, Middx). His death certificate records that he died on 5 January 1843 aged 61 yrs (possibly 66) of a diseased bladder; his death is reported by an occupier of the workhouse, Robert Busey. No occupation is mentioned. We know from IGI that an Emma Hamlyn, the daughter of William & Johanna Hamlyn, was christened at St Botolph, Bishopsgate 8 Feb 1835 (b. 23 May 1834). IGI also records the marriage of a William Hamlyn and a Johanna Sullivan on 6 Aug 1834 at the Old Church, St Pancras.
We know that a Johanna Hamlyn died in the Newington area (Surrey) in the March quarter of 1840, so perhaps the next step is to send off for this certificate to see if she's the wife of a William, butcher.
That's all!