Hi Jane
Thanks for the offer, but I have searched FreeBMD until I am blue in the face, but with no luck. There is no record of his death in the Gloucestershire BMD either. I can trace his wife through to her death together with his children and she does give her status as widow on the burial record of one of her sons in 1881. His wife describes herself as head of the household, but married in the 1881 census, but by the 1891 census she is still head of the household, but a widow.
It is possible that he ran away to one of the colonies. I am sure that at some time in the past I looked at shipping records. I will look again.
I have a feeling that he just disappeared/ran away, or his death is staring me in the face and I cannot see it.
Tofgem