Great ... so getting the printout for Lilly's 2nd marriage, certainly did pay off (as I thought it might). 
Some progress, at long last. 
Yes, there is a child "John Scott HENDERSON - born 27 December, 1905 ... birth registered in 1906 ... born to "a James HENDERSON and Annie ?"
So did this James HENDERSON die in 1916 ? (You haven't given the date / year of his death ? )
~ Lu
yes this is the james we think has died on the 28.2.1916 in napier it says in the paper that he was a widow,so to pin point Annies death, i have 4 in the right years, 1908 age 36,1910 age 43,1914 age 40,1909 age 22. no marriage for a james and annie 1900-1906 but then if its our guy he was still married to lily.
or this guy has come out from scotland already married to annie.
can we see a marriage for his son john scott henderson and where? it may lead to a cue.
karen