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New Zealand / Re: Papers Past - Part VI
« on: Thursday 20 February 25 03:20 GMT (UK)  »
Hello Spades,  :)

Thank you for responding. I have so far been quite cautious and told no-one about this newer information, until posting here.

Papers Past is, and always has been, a godsend to my research, and has frequently helped to fill in so many valuable missing pieces of the larger family story. It has also helped settle a few intergenerational "he said, she said" type disputes, especially in relation to the crime stories.

As you may have guessed, it's not the type of family where a lady's name is only mentioned in newsprint at the time of her society debut, engagement and death. (There have been several startling murder trials...and not just way back when.)

I suppose that I just wasn't emotionally prepared to see anything pertaining to my own childhood online just yet, having always presumed that I would be older, more calm and much less excitable - and my parents-aunts-uncles generation most likely deceased - before anything too confronting appeared.

Thank you for your sensible advice.   :)


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New Zealand / Re: Papers Past - Part VI
« on: Tuesday 18 February 25 08:37 GMT (UK)  »
Good evening,

I have registered specifically to ask this question: What is the correct etiquette when one discovers something sordid and murky on Papers Past from the 1960s and 1970s about one's estranged kin?

Do we discreetly tell them that it's there now, as we know what lengths some of them have gone to in a bid to hide their Christchurch past from new partners and stepchildren in another location? Even if their history is one of 'shooting the messenger'?

Is it worse to keep quiet and pretend not to have seen it, even if it means their loving grandchildren might eventually stumble across it some day, with no prior warning that Grampy was a bankrupt, robber or sex offender?

I had prior knowledge of some - but not all - of their crimes and misbehaviours, yet was still shocked and totally overwhelmed last year to see the 'bad man' from my childhood escalating from petty theft to indecent exposure to children near a school in a series of articles.

The offending kin concerned are seniors now, all living elsewhere, and have no clue about these articles being released online.

I would be glad to hear suggestions about how to handle this in an upright and ethical manner.

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