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« on: Sunday 11 November 18 23:48 GMT (UK) »
Hi Mark, I was thrilled to read your message just a few minutes ago and on such a emotional day of course. 'Alexander' has always been referred to as Charles to me, as you know he was my mums cousin and her fiancé. Over the years I have become more and more interested in Charles and his family. They weren't mentioned much but I was aware that my mum had been engaged to him. He was 5 years old than mum. I do know that his mother, Alice, was very much against their engagement and it was obvious that my mum and her older sister didn't like her - or even the name Alice! I'd gathered Charles had died in the war and that mum had to return her 'beautiful sapphire ring'. It wasn't until after she passed away in 2010 that I found a letter to her from Charles written 6 months before he died. I didn't start my family research until after my dad died in 1996. By the time I received the death certificate for Charles I suspect mum was starting to suffer from mild dementia. When I showed her the certificate she just looked at me and said 'he did die then?'. I desperately wish I'd asked why she'd said that but didn't want to upset her. My mum sister passed away a few months after mum but she told me 'Charles was sweet on me but I was already married'. Yet again I didn't like to ask questions and now there is no one to ask.
I have always wondered what happened to both Charles's and his fathers medals than a chap on the forum posted to say he was researching their lives as he has the medals. Maybe they were stolen then sold at auction? I deeply wish they had stayed within the family.
I won't write more now as it's getting rather late. Do you have a photo of Charles? I have a portrait size one of him in uniform that he gave to mum and also a few family snaps.
A few years ago a chap from one of the forums very kindly sent me copies of war diaries relating to Charles's father and also some details regarding Charles's service record. He collects medals and said that he had ones for a private from Charles's battalion and there was a strong possibility that Charles's led him into battle at Monte Cassino. He wrote 'a very brave man'. I am so proud of both him and his father. So far I have found 9 other family lost in the 2 wars and I suspect there may be more as my research carries on......
Thank you SO much for getting in touch. It's amazing to be in touch with another member of Charles's family 😊
Best wishes, Shirley