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Thank you @CaroleW:) I would say Ann Carter is the right wife too.

Thanks also ColC. I am now pursuing the idea that his mother may have been a lady by the name of Elizabeth Nottingham based upon the family tree of a lady who has just matched me Via DNA. I am going to check out your 8th of Sept, 1811 hint though, because that also sounds like a really promising lead.

@Rosinish

Unfortunately, there are no other siblings. I think the reason the whole process so far has gone so slow is because I don't want to upset anyone by making rash allegations that might cause them undue distress and so I've been as careful as I can be.

As I am not young, the parties involved (parents) are deceased which helps I suppose in that there isn't anyone around to take unbridled anger out on, lest it take that turn. My cousins also are ten to fifteen years older than me and really pragmatic, even tempered men and so I know when it comes down to having that awkward conversation that they will most likely be adults about it:)

@medpat I appreciate your good heart and I understand the need to play devil's advocate because this is the kind of situation that is life altering. However in my case it is as @hurworth said.

I have taken not one but DNA tests in the last two years. The first test (23andme) led me to the assumption that something was wrong on the paternal and the second test (Ancestry) pretty much convinced me that my first assumption was right.

In the last two years I have spent hundreds of hours building up both my Dad's tree and the mirror tree and making both as accurate as possible.

The mirror tree (Uncle's tree) so far has connected me directly to at least six, previously unexplained 3-4th cousin matches and has inspired another five shared ancestor hints via the Ancestry system. The trees of the people in those SAH cases have fully matched my uncle's tree.

I probably should also point out that nearly all of the 3-4th cousin matches are linked to lines related to my Uncle's mother on the X, so for me there was just no getting over it, I'm looking at an NPE but as previously mentioned by another poster, I'm not unique in this.

Update on my situation. I have completed an extensive mirror tree on Ancestry and have received multiple shared ancestor hints on not one but four of my Uncle's family lines.

This information has been greeted by my siblings with a good deal of scorn and skepticism, (as you might well imagine). They believe that I have somehow forced the shared ancestor hints to appear by placing my uncle's name where I did.

I have no further way to prove my suspicions, so I am in currently in the position where I will possibly have to throw my hands up and move on, and/or wait for more people to test in the future.

Thanks everyone for all of your insights and help.