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We got married in 1982.  Wedding lists were not really that common in our neck of the woods then.   Couples didn't tend to live together beforehand either.   My mother was dead against the idea of wedding gift lists ('folk should take what they get and be grateful') and my parents would have gone into orbit if we had lived together!

I remember being so excited each time I got a gift to open - we had the traditional present showing for anyone who wanted to come, which meant the house being clean and tidy for about a month every day before the wedding, plus a supply of homebakes and sandwiches.

I have many of my wedding presents still, it gives me pleasure to remember the people who gifted them.  Sadly my groom is no longer here, so large gatherings no longer happen for the lovely dinner set and cutlery canteen, not to mention the glassware, to be used. 

Within only a few years lists became standard and living together became the norm.   I don't suppose the brides coming after got quite as much pleasure opening parcels as I did.

I still have some items belonging to my Mum and Dad, which they received as wedding presents in 1955. 

I may be getting the wrong end of the stick - but Parkhill is some distance from Kingseat, so an address at Parkhill would not likely form part of Kingseat Hospital. 

Do you mean a different address which was the address at death?  I lived only a few miles from both Parkhill and Kingseat, and actually worked at Kingseat Hospital as a student one year.

I can remember many of the villas and their names so could possibly assist.  Please PM me if you prefer.

Quote from: Countryquine on Wednesday 07 September 22 02:34 BST (UK)

Was it normal for children to take on their alleged fathers surnames as they grew up?

Yes.

Thanks.

I have always been a bit wary of accepting the alleged fathers as such, since they were not named on the birth certificates.  One father was, according to the family story, killed in an accident before the birth of his child, while the other was alive and went on some years later to marry someone else. 

I would assume then, that when registering a birth in that period, if the parents were not married, then the registrar would only enter the mothers name, and the fathers name would not come into the equation, irrespective of whether the father accepted paternity or was indeed around to dispute it.

I am aware that illegitimacy was an accepted fact in NE Scotland around this time, despite the disapproval of the Church (there is a book by Prof Marjory Harper on this subject, which I think I will track down and re-read).

Thanks

If you would like photos of the headstones in Newmachar, I could get them for you.  I live a few miles from Newmachar.  If you want to PM me I will see what I can do.

To maintain anonymity for all time, thou shalt not move from the small village of thine ancestors, nor pursue any other career, and thou shouldst name thine offspring for thy greatgrandparents, so that cousins, second cousins, third cousins and many other cousins removed carry the same name.