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Lincolnshire / Re: Quarry maternity home,
« on: Thursday 03 November 11 12:47 GMT (UK)  »
Thank you Mojo9 the information provided. I am trying to build an accurate picture of the events surrounding my adoption.
As an adopted child I feel like a book with the first few chapters missing ( to borrow someone else's rather pertinent description).
I have made contact with my birth family but the information provided by my birth mother is, at best, confused.
Then three months ago I became aware that as an adopted child, I was legally entitled to have my adoption files opened, including access to the records held by the Quarry.
This week my adoption file was sent to my Approved Intermediary so shortly it's secrets will be revealed.
I do not have an issue with being placed for adoption or her motives for doing it but it is important to me to get to the real truth - whatever that looks like.
I would be interested to hear from mothers like you as to how the adoption felt/affected you at the time and how it feels/affects you, if it all, 40+ years on. It is easy to forget there are two sides to every story.
Anway, thanks again for the post. If you wish to reply, privately or otherwise, I would be genuinely interested in what you have to say.

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Lincolnshire / Re: Quarry maternity home,
« on: Thursday 22 September 11 15:45 BST (UK)  »
Thanks to Mel B for the two newsletters she posted. They make very interesting reading. Most of the posts on these threads say the place was a relatively happy place, in spite of the odd coackroach  :)

I would love to see any other background information that may be around on The Quarry, particularly anything around 1964/65.

Once again, thanks to Mel B.

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Lincolnshire / Re: Quarry maternity home,
« on: Monday 05 September 11 22:38 BST (UK)  »
Thank you for your really prompt reply. The information provided was very useful.

I do have more questions if you have the patience to help me. What was the normal process for adoption? What was the normal period between the birth and the baby being adopted? My adoption order was made the following April when I was 6 months old. Does this mean that my birth mother, (*) would have stayed with me until then? My birth name was (*) and my birth was registered (*) 1964.

What kind of information was gathered from the mother for the adoption file? I am trying to get my adoption file opened. I have made contact with my birth family. My mother doesnt seem to want direct contact but my younger half sister and I are in weekly contact and have a good relationship.

I understand things were very different then and have no real animousity. I just need to get the 'gaps' in my background filled as much as I can.

Once again, thanks for your valauble help in my quest to understand more.  Warm regards.



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Lincolnshire / Re: Quarry maternity home,
« on: Monday 05 September 11 20:40 BST (UK)  »
I was born at the Quarry in October 1964? Anyone there at that time could give me information on what it was l like then. I have so many questions.

Was it married & unmarried mothers?
What was it like to be there?
How long did mothers stay there before and after the birth?
Were the babies for adoption removed immediately or at some later point?
How long after 1964 did it stay open?
Why did it close?
Is it still there?
Where did the files from the Quarry go to when it closed?

I'm sorry to asking so much but there s a big hole in my knowledge that needs filling. Any help would really be gratefully appreciated. Many thanks.

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