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Lincolnshire / Re: Quarry maternity home,
« on: Monday 05 September 11 23:55 BST (UK) »
Hi again. I'll try and answer your questions.
As far as I can remember, when I first got pregnant my mum and I were allotted a social worker and she arranged for me to go into the Quarry. I think the idea of a mother and baby home was to make a smooth journey for both mother and baby. You actually had your baby in the labour room at the Quarry as the staff were nurses and in those days you would then stay on the ward for 7 days before returning to work and looking after your baby in the nursery.
The normal period between having the baby and the baby being sent for adoption was 6 weeks. The baby would go to the prospective adopters and would live with them for a while before going through the legal adoption process. My baby was born in December and was adopted in April, the same month as you were adopted.
The process of deciding what kind of people would adopt your baby was decided on your (and the father's ) background, physical appearance(ie height, colour of hair etc) and I remember a lot of questions regarding my education. When my son found me he had a copy of the adoption papers naming me and his father and, bizarrely, a letter written by me stating the reasons for having him adopted.
When my son and I met for the first time in June, I took him to the Quarry. Although he had always known he was adopted, he had no idea where he was born. When we arrived at the house a lady came out to us and I told her why we were there. The house is now a boarding house for boys aged between 8 and 14 who study at Lincoln Cathedral School. The lady very kindly let us go into the house and look round. What a strange experience!!
I hope this will help to clarify things for you. If there is anything else you want to know just ask. It's great you are in touch with your half sister. I had 2 sons after Geoff went for adoption and they are all yet to meet one another. I hope we will all get together at Xmas.
Regards Jo
As far as I can remember, when I first got pregnant my mum and I were allotted a social worker and she arranged for me to go into the Quarry. I think the idea of a mother and baby home was to make a smooth journey for both mother and baby. You actually had your baby in the labour room at the Quarry as the staff were nurses and in those days you would then stay on the ward for 7 days before returning to work and looking after your baby in the nursery.
The normal period between having the baby and the baby being sent for adoption was 6 weeks. The baby would go to the prospective adopters and would live with them for a while before going through the legal adoption process. My baby was born in December and was adopted in April, the same month as you were adopted.
The process of deciding what kind of people would adopt your baby was decided on your (and the father's ) background, physical appearance(ie height, colour of hair etc) and I remember a lot of questions regarding my education. When my son found me he had a copy of the adoption papers naming me and his father and, bizarrely, a letter written by me stating the reasons for having him adopted.
When my son and I met for the first time in June, I took him to the Quarry. Although he had always known he was adopted, he had no idea where he was born. When we arrived at the house a lady came out to us and I told her why we were there. The house is now a boarding house for boys aged between 8 and 14 who study at Lincoln Cathedral School. The lady very kindly let us go into the house and look round. What a strange experience!!
I hope this will help to clarify things for you. If there is anything else you want to know just ask. It's great you are in touch with your half sister. I had 2 sons after Geoff went for adoption and they are all yet to meet one another. I hope we will all get together at Xmas.
Regards Jo