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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Wednesday 20 January 10 17:17 GMT (UK)  »
I have been discussing things via pm with someone, mostly to do with Jim, but I have to glean info from him when I see him!!

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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Wednesday 20 January 10 09:49 GMT (UK)  »
I have been down that route - most of my relatives I am estranged from anyway, as I have never got on with them, and the one aunt who I consider closest has said she doesn't know much about it, and from past issues regarding my mother, she doesn't want to get involved and possibly cause friction with her sister.
 
If she does know, she ain't telling in case it causes trouble with Mum.

I am autistic, and my problems connected with it have caused friction between myself and my relatives all my life, and although they say they want to help, when it comes down to it - nothing!!

Long used to it!!! ::) ;)


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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Tuesday 19 January 10 10:23 GMT (UK)  »
I managed last night to track down names of that family in Limerick - am considering applying for records, although the service costs!!!   I'm going to try and access directories too.  Like i said, contact isn't really important, it is closure.  I'm debating the DNA issue!!!

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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Monday 18 January 10 17:44 GMT (UK)  »
I ended up speaking to Mum again about it, despite what I put above, I have had a couple of nights lying awake and it was doing my head in, so I rang up this afternoon.  My problem is that I don't believe that the names she has given me are actual people, they are made up names.   One candidate is from Limerick, or so Mum, says but there are no families of that surname in Limerick!  Maybe just not looked hard enough - but it seems suss.   Because it has been stressing me out, I rang her - she was a lot better than I thought, but still don't 100% believe her.

Jimmy didn't turn up this morning for me to get more info out of, which is a pity as I went down all bright eyed and bushy tailed armed with a notepad!!!!  Goodness knows where he went... ;)

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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Sunday 17 January 10 20:16 GMT (UK)  »
I'm definitely thinking about doing something like that and see what happens!!!! ;)  I'm keeping it a secret from Mum though - if I do find anything I don't want any of her spanners in the works, lol!!

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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Saturday 16 January 10 20:02 GMT (UK)  »
Hi Roger.

I did try and find trace men by the names she gave me but drew blanks - this is the problem,  I have no way of contacting them because I cannot find anyone by the names she has given, I have tried.  Several times, the Irish chap came from Limerick but cannot find anyone of the name she gave there, or the bloke from the village!!   I have written letters stating about DNA to various people but drawn blanks at every turn - which makes me wonder what truth is in the names she has given. 

Very tricky situation, and very frustrating.  I have no addresses or contact names to write to, same as my friend I am trying to help. 

Thanks again for your advice, I amy well try and delve again!!!


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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Saturday 16 January 10 10:42 GMT (UK)  »
Thanks Roger - sorry don't know if you are referring to my post!  The only problem there is that both names she gave me may well not exist, for example when I was younger she said my fathers name was Joe Bloggs - (to avoid naming people) and after this woman got in contact she came out with, say Jerry Bloggs for this Irish chap, and when I said that she had told me his name was Joe, she went into a flap saying sehe is too old and her brain cannot work back that far!!!  The second man she has given two names for too....  I would definitely remember no matter how old I am, any man who made me pregnant, or if two possibilites, both their names, it isn't something a woman would easily forget.  I do think she knows, and I may find out on her death - maybe she has instructed a family member to tell me then!!!  Until then I will just get names.... >:( :-\

Oh well - if I can help Jimmy trace his relatives, it doesn't matter about mine, Mum can stew!!!

Funny enough - one of her hobbies is tracing her family history......... ::)


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Family History Beginners Board / Re: Tracing living relatives - discussion thread
« on: Friday 15 January 10 11:35 GMT (UK)  »
I **THINK*** I have an Irish father, although this depends wholly on how much truth is in what my mother told me.  I am in my late forties and only found out at 34 that this Irish person may not be the only man that could possibly be my father as my mother named a man in a nearby village as a possible candidate.  Basically this was back in the sixties so both me could be still living.  My mother only volunteered this info when a woman traced us who is my sister and I had always been told I was an only child.  I would have absolutely no idea of what is truth or fiction coming out of Mum's mouth!!  So really, tracing any relatives of mine from my paternal side, living or deceased would be an absolute minefield!!!!  The Irish one My mother - has said - is deceased from what she has heard.

I am interested in helping a friend trace his roots, this is why I joined, and although my first post fell somewhat foul of the rules on living people, I think that with a bit of luck I may have some success!!

I think some of those links will come in handy! :)

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Antrim / Re: Hilditch family of Antrim
« on: Friday 15 January 10 11:18 GMT (UK)  »
Thanks for that.  I will read through those links.   I think whatever happens it will be difficult as getting ages will be pure approximation!!!! 

Myself I possibly have an Irish father from Limerick, so I may find something myself on this site!! Although in my case it depends on whether or not my mother has lied to me - so maybe this Irish bloke never existed - anyway, that has nothing to do with this thread, so I'll not carry on about that here.

Thanks again for the link - Jim was asking this morning.

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